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BY Alexander~ | January 21st, 2009 at 5:00 AM
Getting into State
Tags: Dating Techniques


Get into state. Because getting into state is good. When you are in state, you aren’t not out of state. And while this doesn’t necessarily make you attractive to girls, it certainly doesn’t make you unattractive. But, that depends.

Honestly, and if you ask my closest friends in the company, I’m not really motivated by girls. One time I drunk dialed a friend’s ex girlfriend and exposed her to some verbal obscenities. But, as I was always shining through, she must have been attracted to my nimbus. When I asked her what her address was she was shocked. She must have thought it was for outer game purposes. Nope. The corner vendor has ceased to serve alcohol.

I wanted to visit her house for inner game purposes.

Point is, when I asked her what her address was she was shocked, paused for a moment considering the oral lashing I had given her, and asked “why do you want my address?!”

‘For invitational purposes.’

Obviously.

She then volunteers her address. You beauty.

But, in my quest to get more state, I got distracted by the hermit crabs in the water fountain and I forget all about the Santa Claus style drop in she was expecting. No presents for her. State reigned supreme in my priorities.

When I rubbed my eyes and figured out where I was the next day, I came to the conclusion that she was attracted to me because I was more inspired by getting some state then I was inspired to give her a statement of outer game. This lead to the extrapolated conclusion that I should do more things like that, but be mindful to capitalise on my outer game inspiring state and share the love.

Results have been positive and medicinally compromising since.
For you, the budding glory monger, you may actually have your priorities out of order. Do you go out to ‘sarge’ or do you go out to irritate the bouncers of the establishment?

I see a lot of guys who go out for reasons other than themselves. To put anyone or anything in front of your cause is to assume that you are lower value than them, and hence, be unattractive. No girl will tell you her address.

The club is my office. But, I have no boss, only the agent Smiths. I can’t drink because I am at ‘work,’ so I just get into state and then say ‘whoa’ a lot.

Technically, state is default, and is what happens when you perceive that nothing stands in your way. When there is nothing in your head to prevent it from coming to you, you are in state. You can’t force it, though. Like so many other things, if you let go, it will come straight to you. But, not like money in the casino, that’s an exception.

More technically, self esteem based state is proportionate to your ability to influence others. If you subscribe to natural game, state comes from within. The more people you have to influence, the more you call upon your resources from within, and like a siphon it just begins to flow. Slow at first, but it can build momentum.

Technically, if you do something positive, dominant or simply take action, you will move more towards state then you were previously. You want your cognitive traffic to cause the people around you to do matrix style limbo to avoid falling under your spell. But, they are only human. Bring more state and they will succumb to your presence.

What are the well know state building techniques? If you’re a bit of a beginner and want to get a bit of a smile up in the club, try talking to a few sets, singing, shouting, high fiving, or clapping your hands.

Try it now. Sing this song... and follow the lyrics. Clap your hands, stand up, bob your knees and give someone a high five. Sing loud, break the shackles. You don’t have bad intentions, why would you limit yourself?

OK.. hit the song and sample some beginner state. Remember, whatever you feel she feels.

We rocked this song in France while intermittently screaming the mispronounced name of the scandalous French President: “SAR-COW-ZEE, FUCK YEAH!”

But, that stuff is for the faint of heart. There is a whole new range of self entertainment, state inspiring, and sanity obliterating pastimes that will induce seizures of laughter. They follow the same principles of taking action, creativity and positive dominance, only amplified.

I warn you. Do these wrong and you will end up in jail, an altercation or maybe knighted. Use at your own risk.
The ‘Lime in the eye’.

One of the best in the business: juice for tough guys. Anecdotally, only Australians can handle lime to the eyeball.

The ‘corporate elbow’.
Take your left hand and scratch the back of your head. In doing so, out stretch your left elbow outwards and to head level. Now you have a limbo stick for others in the club to negotiate.

The ‘umbilical cord’.
Join several bendy straws together by pinching one straw so it is smaller in diameter than the other straw and insert inside. It must be an air tight connection. Now, you can drink for free, ninja style.

The ‘I lost my contact lens’.
When a hot girl or girls (known as a ‘mingerwarren’ waltz by wearing short skirts exclaim loudly “I lost my contact lens!” in a manner that will draw attention to yourself. Drop to your hands and knees and lower you head as low as possible to the ground. From this angle, you can pose an opinion opener to the girl such as “can I get a quick female opinion on something. [female interlude] Have you seen my contact lens. With your head on the ground and their short skirts it makes for good angle of conversation.

The ‘legless drunk’.
If you can put a wobble on your bipedal progressions and roll your eyes into anti-co-ordinated magic eight balls, then you can pass as a convincing drunk. In this pseudo-condition, you can knock cock blocking chodes over, motor boat cleavage capture girls in your arms as you try to regain your balance. This one is fun.

The ‘oceans one’.
Somewhere in the venue there will be a security door with a numeric code required for access. Keep an eye on it. Usually the code won’t be longer than five or six figures. Note it or film it with your camera, and BOOM you’re in the Bellagio vault. Go in, find a uniform, suit up, then tend the bar, yet prioritizing your companions. Use said companions to bring girls to the free drink and watch them paw at your neck line as you tell them of your whiles.

And for mayhem purposes (prepare to be immediately ejected)...

The ‘Grand Prix Podium’.
This is much like a wet t-shirt contest, but the contestants aren’t aware of their involvement. So it’s kinda like Halloween. Buy a sultry three count of Pabst Blue Ribbon or other such shittery in bottle form. Cover the top with your thumb. Start a ruckus as though there is a bit of a shoving fight in the vicinity. In the commotion violently shake the beer at waist level. And voila...we have Spring Break. This is both an effective means for state, opening the girl and extracting the girl as they will probably get booted from the bar when Agent Smiths come at you talking of sociological prophecies.

Don’t let these maneuvers limit you. There are many more, far more creative, far less professional means by which to get into state. It’s the thrill of going against the norm, the thrill of immediate venue-removal and heightened sense of self from the attention that you will draw that makes these things and others so good for amping the state and fun. Make you and your fun the first priority of your night.

More often than not, the girls will think of you as silly and immature. This is, of course, the goal. Blend-Tec their congruence tests and establish A = HV + E. You have fun – they have fun. Everybody wins.

State like this will have the girls circling you as if you had your period in shark infested waters.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | February 5th, 2009 at 1:24 AM
Deal Breakers
Tags: Self Actualization

Some say that looks don’t matter, and this is pretty accurate. There is one caveat, though. Looks don’t matter only if your game is good.

But, when this sort of advice is dealt out with military authority, it is assumed that you are basically socially calibrated.

That is to say, you don’t kidnap women and hide them in a hole in your basement. You don’t give them the “it rubs the lotion on its skin or else it gets the hose again.”

If you are just taking your first tentative steps out into a bar after reading some http://www.alexattitude.com inner game advice, you need to know the basics. Coaches spend so much time on the deeper and more fascinating issues that we rarely bother to pay attention to the absolute fundamentals that can leave some guys pants down in the bar embarrassed, not delighted.

It must be frustrating as a new guy to open set after set, be relatively ‘normal,’ but get smashed to smithereens by the girls around you. If your reppin’ RSDN and some of these failed interactions are dictated by actual mingers, it can be straight out insulting and demoralizing.

I get a plethora of guys on bootcamp who have seen all of our products, smoked Tyler’s hair rolled up in pages of the Blueprint, and still manage to get blown out. Technically they are perfect, but when they approach, they inject pure disgust into the women they talk to.

Basically, these guys need to clean themselves up.

They take a shower, whiten their teeth and wear some deodorant... and poof, like some kind of wisdom-wizardry, they can all of a sudden get the girls.

It’s a bit of the old ivory tower syndrome; all fountain pen with no gang land experience.

A basic rule of thumb, if you want to get mathematical, is to ensure that you don’t stray more than two standard deviations away from the societal norm.

Pay attention to what’s going on around you and add your own expression to it.
Remember if the way you present your self doesn’t gel with the girls’ reality, you’re simply not going to be wearing the dentist’s apron that night; you shall be giving no fillings.

Elaborated, as awesome as your top hat may be, or as pungent as your cow-hoof earrings are, they just doesn’t have a place at the bar.

So, read Maxim magazine, check out FHM, go to the bar and pay attention. Look in the mirror, if you look too Bollywood or feel Adam’s Familyish, it’s time to change it up.

On a more biological level, there are treatments for almost any kind of puss, mucus, flakes, odours, hairs, parasites or gremlins climbing out of your ears that you may have. have. Though, if you are suffering from ‘baby’ that means you are pregnant, I can’t help you.

If you step to the girl with snow capped shoulders, you could be a rock star and still fritter away any chance you ever had playing flesh darts.

If you have acne, there are hundreds of thorough and safe treatments; some are external and some are internal. Though, this is most easily avoided by not ever touching your dial and ensuring you eat well, consistently. Personally, I used ProActive to go from a Chicago pizza to an aspiring Calvin Klein Model.

If you have body odour, take a fucking shower; soap is a bonus. Using said soap is an added bonus.

If you have fucked up teeth, get yourself fixed up. To be honest, if you don’t have ivory hunters following you around, prodding a rifle up your ass, then you probably have some progress to make. With good teeth comes good breath, but carry around gum anyway. This you can offer to girls as an opener to the tune of, “want some gum?”

All of this is well and good, but remember if your game is super tight, none of this even remotely matters

In summary, the point I’m making is that if your shit isn’t yet good enough transcend body odour, dandruff, seeping body fluids and mythological creatures playing in your hair, some simple drug store times can be the difference between making the wrong impression and getting to split the pink.

Importantly you will disassociate with negative anchors from the past, like a submarine.

**teeth gleam**

Clean times.
Alex~

BY Alexander~ | February 20th, 2009 at 2:41 PM
Don’t hate on others and how to deal with those that do
Tags: Inner Confidence
Dude, so many people hate other people. First, there was Adam and Eve, and more recently, Bert and Ernie. In the case of the latter, I understand there would be friction because of the sexual fireworks caused by their living arrangement. But really, it’s not that big of a deal. Just build a pillow barrier like me and Jeffy did and you’re all good.

All these ‘community’ folk are out to build some kind of new sense of self. They need to take a chill pill (which isn’t an amphetamine, it’s a metaphor for chilling the fuck out) and realize the new self is found under their clothes.

When these community folk are bouncing around their shit, all trying to find themselves in some ego on the threads, it’s like red team and blue team in paintball. The red teams all like, this is how I’m going to do things from now on. Because they’re all pissed, they’re wearing red, get aggressive and can’t accept that another reality of wearing blue can co-exist as being a cool way to chill out in the world. So what do they do?! Shoot red fucking paintballs at them, and try to shove their shit down their throats and make them red too so they have a reality that makes sense? Scum. But, they don’t know any better.


Meanwhile! The Blue team is cracking the shits because they didn’t start with red. At first they were chill in blue, just kicking back and playing poker, then they realized that red team was wearing red, which they wanted to be. This made them angry. So, because they can’t be red like red team, which red team wants to turn them into anyway, they get pissed and try and sabotage red team by turning them blue. They both want the same thing, but they just don’t like their realities being questioned. So what does blue team do to fuck with red team? That’s right. They throw fucking paint bombs everywhere and shout Geronimo all over the place. They are embarrassed at what they’re doing, not even sure why they are doing it. By they keep going because they are confused.

Statistical analysis reveals that both teams wanted the same thing, to be the red team. Red team didn’t realize they were cool just being red. No worries; have a fucking cookie. But then they see the blue-crew and get all pissed because they aren’t sure if they are correct anymore. Blue crew thinks they are missing out on something because of the common misconception that red cars go faster. So, they just destroy the brake cables of their red cars so they will fall into a lake, which is blue. Effectively sabotaging something they though they wanted and didn’t have.


Stupefied by external sources, I see this sort of shit all the time with different schools of thought all over the place. Only in the case of the Westin Hotel can action be taken. Otherwise in less dire circumstances, red team and blue team need to realize how to settle their differences instead of attacking with high velocity red paintballs and Geronimo Blue Paint bombs.

Red team and blue team need to chill the fuck out, listen to some reggae and get naked.

Shit happens when you party naked. All the players from both red team and blue team get their gear off, and will have the startling realization that all players from both teams have dicks!

Then both teams will realize they are wasting their time, because they find that there is no point fucking each other.

Shit happens when you party naked.

So, they chase girls.

Peacefully yours,
Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | March 6th, 2009 at 3:31 PM
The Walk of Shame and the Stride of Pride
Tags: Inner Confidence


I will always remember my twenties as the years as a magical time of adventure, binge drinking and writing articles for RSD Nation.

These experiences have been punctuated by many pillow fights, interspersed with moments and glory and moments of shame.

There has been more than one occasion where I have woken up to feel the hot sun beat down on my face, before rubbing my eyes and posing myself the rather philosophical question: “where the fuck am I?”

If I managed to get myself into a situation where I didn’t know where I was upon waking up, then it usually followed that I was in a headspace where the grammar of my recovery monologues was compromised.

I once awoke to find ants in my hair because I used honey for styling gel. I was in a garden; luckily there was a girl next to me, so I knew that it wasn’t a completely wasted night.

Unsure as to whether or not the interaction was ‘high-five’ worthy, I strained to remember the night before, specifically wondering if there were any events that super ceded the attention I paid towards my own entertainment.

On the walk back from Brisbane’s botanical gardens I stopped to get an iced coffee, whilst my female pillow fighting friend dropped into the chemist to get a ‘morning after pill’. Either she remembered what happened when I didn’t, or she was just unsure and was being cautious.

Either way, great success!

As I strolled through the city that sultry Wednesday morning, I thought to myself... this is the walk of shame. Fat businessmen stared and spat at me. Others gazed longingly at the disheveled women at my side as she ingested her contraceptive. Children on the way to school, dressed neatly with their little ties, were frightened by me.

I was the ‘bad man.’

That long and hot walk back to my home was the definition of the walk of shame. Iced coffee wasn’t the most well thought out plan either. It was so damn hot, so yeah, milk was a bad choice.

Now, I’m no stranger to the walk of shame. In fact, there are several rivers named after me in Australia that honor the walks I took when I couldn’t afford a ride home.

However, one thing I’m much less of a stranger to is the stride of pride. When it comes to times of glory, I just cruise through Airport customs. The customs squid and I are on a first name basis these days.

I used to live with three guys, and we would have up to twenty five people sleeping (read as: unconscious) on the floor of our house. Some mornings I would wake and, as usual, wonder ‘where the fuck am I?” I would then breathe a sigh of relief as I saw my good old fashioned glow in the dark stars that I had stuck to my roof.

Unaware as to why I had no feeling in my right arm, I glanced to my adjacent area only to notice the gorgeous girl that was chilling sleep styles next to me. Delighted by this discovery and assured that there would be teams of guys passed out downstairs, I suggested that the girl roll off my arm and come to the letter box with me to collect my mail.

Striding like Jesus walking on water, girl in tow, others stirred and came to consciousness, themselves asking the quintessential question, “where the fuck am I?” Then they noticed me in the midst of my stride of pride, girl in toe. She asked, “why are we going to get the mail?”

It was Sunday; there was no mail.

Clever!

Many months later and the stride of pride would be upgraded to waking up in world class hotel rooms. Escorting babes past teams of students always stopped doubts of the integrity of the RSD instructor abilities.

These are the glory times that punctuate what have so far been my twenties.

Alex~

BY Alexander~ | March 20th, 2009 at 3:12 PM
Shadow Lording... Messing with Ryan; and how Ryan Got Me Back.


Look, I’ll be honest with you. There is something wrong with Ryan. Exhibit A.

Ryan suffers from a Disease called Malcolm X. Ryan suffers from eleven names: Ground game, Sparky, Sparky underscore PUA, Bangladeshy Playboy 69, Yahya, Yahya Jones, Yahya Jones Bitch, Yahya Jones Bitch!, and Shadow Lord Target Number One.

Yahya has this many names because he doesn’t want all the girls he is slamming to find out his true identity, which recently was changed to Alexander~ Jr. Some don’t know, but Ryan fucks the girlfriends of internet billionaires, and like a ninja, swoops in and seduces the groupies of all American rock bands. He’s a gulf war stealth machine.

One thing I can tell is you is there is something very right about Ryan. He is the best wing in the world. If I could lord with anyone, it would be him. Tyler, Tim, Jeffy and Papa... yeah, you guys are cool, but Alexander~ Jr. (Ryan) is where it’s at.

He is the best for several reasons. For one, it is because he has the best technical skills and “know-how” in the game, bar NO-ONE FROM ANYWHERE. Also, when it comes time for analysis he will pace back and forth for hours on end mentally masturbating about interesting things.

Soon enough you can be sure Alexander~ Sr. is right in there with him as well, breaking it down and bringing an inner game perspective. And alas, the number one reason why Ryan is the best wingman in the world is because of this contrast with me. He’s an outer game National Aeronautics and Space Administration engineer. While he’s up in set with the hot girls with youthful junior enthusiasm, I’m eagerly waiting in line for a Corona to wrap my lime with.

Once my agent of hydration has been acquired I return to find Ryan deep in set with what is invariably a hottie. When I return I usually feel like I have ten out of ten game. This is true, because I am happy because Ryan is ready to distribute some outer game.

Smiling and looking like a model from a Corona ad, sweepings beads of sweat away from my brownish brow deflecting golden rays of sunshine into the surrounding atmosphere, girls involved with this particular Alexander~-Ryan dynamics often mistake Alexander~ for a Christmas decoration.

Inspired by this new shiny and festive season object, the girls often hang one finger from their mouths and drool in what is the initiation towards a fluid transaction.

Like a cold Christmas night, the girls flock around me as I triumphantly lift a beer to my lips like excited children magnetically drawn to long and full socks hanging from a roaring winter fireplace. Soon after, they recognize me from my youtube fame and soon Ryan is forgotten, left out in the winter cold like a silly person who lost their keys to their house.

Perturbed, Ryan found this to be dissatisfactory. He would often think to himself, why does he get beer AND get girls, and have a large and full sock that motivated girls to hang out with him?

A perplexing conundrum.

Little did Ryan know, his enthusiasm was his own bullet wound to the foot. It wasn’t that he was doing anything incorrect; it was that he fell into the trap of Alexander’s~ rhythm once the girl’s projected any attention onto the shiny new object.

This irked Ryan for some time. Especially as he was in a position to learn how to instruct from Alexander~ and the professional dynamics were preset as an alpha-beta, Alex-Ryan learning role play.

Ryan, however, is probably smarter than Alexander~. At this stage Ryan has tens of thousands of dollars less in fines than Alexander~ does, which is an accurate means of measuring one’s intelligence.

Ryan, aware of Alexander~’s comparative intelligence, realized Alexander~ had far too much self esteem because he didn’t use any cognition in field and only, as Ryan describes, ‘thinks with his nuts’.

So Ryan hatched a plan. The shadow lording was becoming too much, and Ryan was getting pissed, and was also evolving into other relationships Ryan had with other instructors such as naturalTim. Ryan figured if he could get Alexander~ to use his brain, then he would get an ego. And then he wouldn’t be such a shiny object to girls but rather a viral piece of cunt to them. Viciously he launched his intellectual plan.

“Alexander~,” Ryan proclaimed, “you are the best in the world”.

“Don’t talk to me” Alexander~ would respond.

“You are the best in the world. All the other instructors have girlfriends now. You are the best in the world”.
Ryan would press on.

Now, at first this made no sense to Alexander~, because he is a man of self esteem and has little cognitive operation in the bar. But, after the seventeen thousandth repetition of this simple message, the rusty mechanisms in Alexander~’s party brain began to slowly turn.

He thought to himself, “Why yes, I do sleep with lots of girls, and I do get lots of comments on the blog. I must be pretty good.” And so it passed, as the dark veil of night fell on that black evening, Alexander~’s “I think I’m the best in the world” ego crawled from the womb of hell.

That night in Sweden, I was a bitch value taker and afraid to get blown out and devalidated.

I was inside my head.

Ryan had stopped taking it, and started giving it. The fucked had become the fucker. Alexander~ was taking it and he didn’t like it.

Ryan laughed, “whor whor whor”, pleased with himself and his un-shadow-lorded sex.

Soon, Alexander~ realized what was going on, and turned the tables again. Ryan tried growing a moustache because he knew that Alexander~ had not yet properly conquered puberty.

Later, Alexander~ and Ryan were found in the corridors of rumination, discussing the see-sawing alpha role phenomenon. It would be decided that no more shadow lording or head fucking should occur.

Then, Ryan and Alexander~ proceeded to pull a stack of girls while flying off solo in different vicinities in the club, bringing them back to the same hotel later on for sexy timez. Sometimes Alexander~ would have to use the bathroom to entertain his guest, sometimes Ryan would. It was the birth of a fruitful dynasty.

Soon afterwards, they would order room service and wear bathrobes.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | April 1st, 2009 at 12:46 PM
Hot shit interns. The real best job in the world.


Everyone says that being a Real Social Dynamics instructor is the best job in the world. And I can assure you that it is indeed an amazing situation. There have been plenty of glory times and I am proud of the hundreds of identity level changed students out there in the world representing the Alexander~ team.


But, when I’m diagnosing mind bending sticking points that are outside doctor’s realities, when I’m dabbing tears off the shoulder of my suit coat, when I’m negotiating with the bouncer to let the student stay in the venue... my hot shit interns are getting their dicks sucked... sometimes in the club.


To be a bootcamp intern, you have a few simple roles to play. Show up, carry the paperwork, high-five the students and make sure the instructor shows up as well.

And get laid.

Not exactly a lengthy task sheet, but an important one. If your instructor is the bad cop, the instructor assistant is your friend and moral support, the ultimate good cop.

Your hot shit intern will wing that fattie with you, but he won’t fuck her; he will have her lick condiments off his outer game until you, the student, have closed the deal.

Oftentimes, this happens in the poor instructor’s hotel bed.

When I’m instructing, I don’t have the luxury of carefree and flashy game that yields insta-alley sex. I have to play to technically safe, be cool and uphold a professional standard of excellence. As so many other pedestrians of the bar down drinks at the bar, I go dry, all for the good of science.

Meanwhile, my hot shit interns are shooting free tequilas from the hottie bartender that is vying for their attention, because they were lording the girls of the club. I look longingly at them, ignoring my sad liver as it asks me, “Why am I being left out, Alexander?”

On bootcamp, I execute glorious demonstrations of destiny. But, can I close these girls? No. My dick asks me, “No wet times tonight, Alexander?” Interns consistently inject themselves into the situation and capitalize on the buying temperature I have professionally dialed up for them.

Hot shit interns crash in glamour hotel rooms, drink the minibar and turn their beds in tents and such so that the others in the room can’t see his ass punishing the female guest he is entertaining. All the while, the instructor is debriefing wide eyed students that are well aware that the hot shit intern is up in the room giving a solid finish to what was an awesome in-club demonstration.

The best thing about being an intern is you get to go on unlimited free bootcamps. The guys who I know who have the best game in the world are those who have done the most bootcamps. Those guys are instructors. The guys who come close second are those who have interned on the most bootcamps.

A massive shout out to the awesome crew that brings the heat every fucking time on bootcamp, who live the life and who turn an outstanding weekend into Cirque-du-fucking-Soleil. I mean Manwhore, Pimpski, Derrick, Brad- (now an instructor) Saad, Brian, m-Swan, Adrian, Tom, Brendan, Toli, Bish and Erik.

These guys bring game that is comparable to instructor level game, and in my humble opinion, I consider Derrick to be the best in the world.

Now, we usher in a new era in Australia with the hot shit interns of the Gold Coast. Introducing the smoothness of the rum swillin’, sweet talking Pyro and the WWE girl wresting abilities of Kimball the ranger box terrorist. On the New South Wales front, we bring professional body builder Chief, who bench presses Hawaii for a workout and roots the Hawaiian Princesses for a de-stressing work out.

These guys are the shit.

If I didn’t have these guys holding down sets while I coached, helping to pull girls back to my hotel, I can tell you now that my weekend sex count would certainly be a fraction of what it is.

To all the hot shit interns, you guys have it sweet. Keep pulling and keep reppin’ the glory that is Real Social Dynamics.

In fact, I think I’m going to take a weekend off and Intern on a Jeffy program again like the days of yore.

Peace yo.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | April 15th, 2009 at 1:23 PM
Going Out Preparation

Some people see pick up as a sport. And, like a sport, they have their little routines, good luck charms, ceremonies, and voodoo dances that help them usher in a good night in the field.

It’s that special time when dusk sets in on a weekend night, the point at which you shower, turn up the music and substitute beers for the wickedness of spirits.

You will, in a lot of cases, really put a lot of emphasis on this process and as a result leave you psychologically expended before you even get into the field. You will arrive with massive outcome dependence, you might sweat yourself, soaked, rendering your preparation shower a complete waste of time. The importance of a good pre going out check list could be the difference between slamming mingers and slamming honeys. It is just that important.

Be a social dude; wherever possible get together and head out in a crew. Girls and guys are far better. Social proof by hanging out with girls is a massively influential thing. The other girls that you plan on talking to in the bar will see you as a guy who girls like being around. As a result, they tend to trust the opinion of the girls that kick it with you more than your presentation of yourself, even though they have never met these girls before.

Don’t get too wasted. With the onset of the weekend, it can be a nice little change to write yourself off into a blithering mess of kebab chunks and bile. While fun for some, it’s mostly an unattractive thing to the girls that you want to be talking to. Drinking is good because it’s normal by the girl’s standard of reality. But, you don’t NEED it.

Don’t drink more than you would if you also had to drive a car home. Otherwise, you will in set crashing shit out, aware that you are doing it, but without control of saving the impending wreck about to unfold in front of you.

Importantly, when you ask a girl what she likes in a guy who comes up to talk to her in a bar, she won’t really be able to put her finger on an accurate description. She will however tell you that she likes a guy who is not drunk.

The house you might possibly bring a guest back to will need to live up to a certain standard. And that standard is one of hygiene, without odours, like your cologne used to make, or marsupials scampering about the place fornicating. Some style is an added bonus.

The place you plan to return to doesn’t need to be tidy or even organized, but it does need to be hygienic. Otherwise it will be a deal breaker. This is especially important for the bathroom. As Jeffy would say, “The bathroom needs to rival the inside of an Intel microchip testing laboratory in its degree of cleanliness.” This is true; you may be able to wipe your ass with a piece of pizza, but your girls cant.

If you have rodents, don’t leave food lying around and buy a live cat.

And, if there is a smell problem figure out what’s making that and then call Ghostbusters. Soon after, buy a candle and waft some scented wax through your abode.

A well prepared evening and a well set up house can set a great precedent to the night and oftentimes make a great place to bring company back to.

If you are concerned about what to eat before you go out on a big night hitting the clubs, simplicity is a good rule of thumb to follow.

Something light, perhaps a salad.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | April 29th, 2009 at 2:43 PM
25 Points...Common Misconceptions of Game


1. Even though the word, “game”, phonetically sounds like gay-eme, there is nothing gay about it. If you got into the game as an excuse to hang out with men, then this is not the industry for you. Commit a crime and get yourself locked up, and feel free to allow others to help you explore that ‘deep avenue’. The gay-eme is about girls and being with them.

2. Acronyms used as false names are unnecessary, and tie into point number one, in that they are mostly gay and, hence, unacceptable. If you name is ‘Siphonator’ (send in prophet hence origins now activate turbulent orgasm rupturing) or any such nonsense, it is some kind of silliness that needs to be put out to pasture. If you have issues with using your real name in field, then you shouldn’t be in field. Put a metal plug in the back of your head and fight imaginary computer games.

3. Stacking should be used for pancakes, not for people, unless the people are two girls in which case that can be ok. If you need to stack that would be the equivalent of throwing bricks at someone who can’t catch. It’s certainly not fun for them, and it makes you look impractical, because its a lot of effort for nothing. People will question your integrity for taunting someone with no arms in the first place anyway. They will ask you, do you have no empathy?... to which you will reply ‘what is empathy?’.

4. Yes, drive-in movies are cool. A lot of people think that to take a girl on a date that doesn’t consist of taking her to the bedroom and the combo Jedi talk-hand flapping her into nudity is the only way to the vagina. Even though this mysterious method has been reported to work, it’s more fun to go and see a movie. They also have the luxury of popcorn and you can use the air conditioner in your car to control how warm or cold you feel. The girl will be kinda trapped and probably make a move on you out of boredom. If this happens turn up the sound in your car to drown out her requests of ‘hanky spanky’, and, then you can get back to the movie. If you are clever, you will get both simultaneously.

5. Talking to other guys about your sexual achievements isn’t a cool thing. If you’re a guy who cruises around and gives out business cards telling people that you are their next girlfriend, then you have some chilling the fuck out to do. If you’re a guy who gets plenty of girls in his life, you have more important things to talk about. For example, the Westin Hotel chain, credit card fraud, and live action role playing in the forest with plastic swords with acronym names.

6. Not having a moustache is a cool thing. If you are rocking a ‘white strip’ under your nose, get some real hormones in you. The moustache is the key to masculinity and the key to being good at winning ten step shoot out challenges in the wild west. A moustache will hide your smile, which will (as ties in with point one) render you emotional and gay. Also, if you have enough girth on your moustache, you will have the opportunity to lodge a cigarette in there for sweet tobacco purposes and simultaneously call dancing girls on your cell phone. All the while, your hands are free to spell out the word ‘player’ on a scrabble board against a feminist opponent. Though you will feel glory of this challenging, but important achievement, your ‘opponent’ wont realise your smiling and be even more mesmerized. Valiant.

7. Not all articles written in the community will be accurate to their title. There are a lot of ‘sexperts’ out there sharing secrets and what not about their field of expertise. Be careful; if they can write so much, so well, they must have some pretty good hands for typing - the sort of fingers that any girl would love to have as a boyfriend. But think twice, why would a guy with amazing typing fingers dedicate them to someone else when he can dedicate them to himself?! Ah ha! Exposed. Beware of what you read and trust your sources. Only trust those who test their things live on program in field. They are the shit. Otherwise you will make mistakes like reading twenty five point articles that only have seven points.

Alex~

BY Alexander~ | June 5th, 2009 at 3:33 PM
28 Points, Article By Alexander~, Part 1.


These are the first 25 points that come to mind, in no order of importance, I may have left some things out, but there are the most common mistakes of natural game that I see being made all the time.

1. Be yourself. Be your best self. Be a man. Take responsibility. Take action. Trust yourself. You are enough. These are all one and the same thing. Where people get lost is in idea of transition or change, acting out of character or whatever. Forget all that. Being yourself means following your core purpose and purest intentions –free from socially conditioned influence. You will make mistakes when you do this, but that’s natural because interactions are subjective. Responsiveness is the answer to ‘interaction mistakes’. Being your best self means ‘you plus you taking responsibility in life’. Your physical nature as a man, and your nurture that is individually unique to only you that sets you apart.

2. Be natural. It’s better to be natural and do things that pick up would say are wrong, than to do the perfect pick up according to the ‘book. If the pickup is too perfect, if you seem too seamless as a person you won’t come off as normal and you the girl won’t take you seriously. When your being natural you make mistakes. This makes sense to the girl. In fact, you should make lots of mistakes, you prove your worth (DHV) when you deal with your own mistakes and other turbulence.

3. Don’t calculate and micromanage. One of the first things girls look for is evidence of the ‘cogs in your head grinding’ to see if you second guessing yourself and if yourself aware. If you are self aware, calculating your game, and trying to micromanage the interaction the girl will instantly put you in the ‘not alpha male’ category and you are done – even if you can string the set out a bit. If you’re not self aware, not calculating not micromanaging – that is to say if your present, in the moment and not self aware you communicate to the girls that ‘you are enough’ and they categorise you as an alpha male and attractive. This is what you want, its only when you second guess yourself that you shoot yourself in the foot. So trust yourself and keep things moving forwards for your own sake.

4. Be unapologetic. This is the key to showing you are congruence with who you are. Even if you ‘fuck up’ you didn’t mean to, and you didn’t intent to offend anyway. Unapologetic is the key to getting away with anything, similar to Stifler or James Bond. When your unapologetic you can do what you want, get away with it, and ultimately people will react to you, you don’t react to them, you’re the source of a range of emotions and stimulation and this makes you a man of value to them.

5. As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you can’t get for yourself. As a result of natural evolution men have become socially and emotionally autonomous where are women are not. If you need people, especially women – on any level, especially for ego validation or sense of self - you’re being a bitch. You will never be attractive. Remember that when you go out: your sense of self and fulfilment is something you can achieve on your own, this is not true for a woman. Realising this is the key to a natural’s frame.

6. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. In life, time will tick away whether you like it or not. Time is a constant. Whatever you are doing in that constant of time will be reinforced. If you are getting out there taking action, moving forward, taking responsibility you will either achieve things or learn things, making way for other achievements. The worst thing you can do with your time is nothing. Staying home, not going to the gym, not approaching, or ejecting for a worthwhile set. If you aren’t winning or learning something at every point in time in your life you will be out of congruence with your ‘man-of-action’ innate trait and you will feel bad. When you win and when you learn you feel good. Get out there. There is no failure, there is just competent and not-yet-competent.

7. ...To 28, coming soon.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | June 17th, 2009 at 1:25 PM
He is... one - of them...


2002, late one Friday night, tucked away in the cupboard of the hallowed Project Hollywood mansion Tyler Durden sat, wondering what was missing. He had just fucked a model on a makeshift mattress, two of his students had pulled, and the writer from Rolling Stone magazine couldn’t have been more impressed.

He had a gorgeous girlfriend, a company of his own and amazing friends all over the world. People down Hollywood way were whispering that he ‘had the magic stick’. He’d overthrown the ‘best pick up artist in the world’ for pick up reputation supremacy, and he’d actually convinced Nicolas Kho, AKA Papa, that he was equal to him as a person (a feat that none other has yet to even encroached upon). He’d even tamed the insufferable Jeffery Lewis Allen the Ninth.

But it wasn’t enough. Why, after all these accomplishments, all the glory and all the fame, was there a hole burning deep within his orange-haired chest? He set his goals thinking they’d be enough, thinking he’d be complete. Nope. Foolishly, he had learnt he was wrong in the hardest of ways. He looked over the naked body of his dishevelled girl from that night, then out his window down at the sunset strip. He didn’t know what he was missing, but he knew he’d know it...if only he could figure out how to find it.

Meanwhile, 7178.90 miles away the missing piece lay, cold an unconscious, disorientated and ashamed.

Where he lay, he couldn’t move but he could think. He could reflect, but not retaliate. All that the ‘one of them’ could conclude was that the fabric of existence wasn’t woven with Victoria Bitter and ‘kamikaze times’, he’d being trying to sew things together with these primitive materials for a long enough now. And still, nothing came together, and it didn’t seem like anything ever would.

On the farm the sun began to glow on the horizon, marking the end of another dirty, drunken night. Hundreds of miles away Tyler could smell potential on the pacific sea breezes. He smelt the remedy to the leaks in his reality. ‘One of them’, all the way down in Australia, dreamt of Marissa Cooper, fictionally mulling about in southern California. The ‘one of them’ knew he had to make it to where she cried, by whatever means possible.

Tyler and ‘one of them’s ’ two paths, were in execrably, destined to cross.

And cross they did.

Many moons later Tyler followed his heart to the land down under in search of another one of the seven essential elements of world domination. There he would notice something that only his eyes had the ability to see. Potential beneath Victoria Bitter, acne and obesity. He noticed a diamond in the wreck, he noticed another ‘one of them’. He noticed Alexander~.

The world would never be the same. Tyler would find the answer to his questions and the lost, young Alexander~ was proposed to Papa as being a potential ‘one of them’. Tyler and Papa decided, he would be given a chance.

He was flown off to Las Vegas, plucked from nowhere to the dismay of hundreds of other hopefuls, including Ryan - who was sure his time was nigh (Dumbass didn’t realise that all he needed was a beard to become an executive coach). Alexander was trialled live in field, and hazed by evil former instructors, to determine whether he had what it takes to become ‘one of them’, an elite Real Social Dynamics Executive Coach.

In three nights infield Alexander impressed. He did everything required in field and more - and he had a natural knack for coaching and guiding others. Two of the three ticks had been accomplished. But, what of his ability to live like a rock star? His theatrics? He had love of the game and a love of the students, but did he had a love of himself? Did he possess the crucial reckless abandon that set RSD Coaches apart? The powers that be were concerned.

Ready to fly off home, all the way back to the shithole factory, to debts and to innumerable personal problems he got a call from Papa that would change is life in the most profound of ways.

“Cancel your ticket, cancel your life, you’re going to become one of us”.

And that afternoon, in celebration of his acceptance into the Real Social Dynamics instructor training program he went on a spree that would see Alexander~ mackin’ hoes by the pool side and getting himself ARRESTED, risking his opportunity to become a coach and almost getting deported back to Australia by United States homeland security.

He had the reckless abandon. They knew he was the man for the job.

...Almost three years, five hundred students and several hundred bootcamps later I, Alexander~, am the epitome of transformation, a walking example of a ‘no-body’ becoming something. Nowadays I’m high in the experience ranks of the Real Social Dynamics coaches and I’ve had many, many head spinning experiences, with girls, the law, freaky community people and the Westin-fucking-Hotels.

It’s only right that I tell this story and share it with the world.

But such a story couldn’t be accurately told in one book, nor could a single book do it all justice.

So to my excitement I have been given the green light to begin work on a series of books and finally a DVD to tell the story of my journey, my adventures and finally, teach you all that I have learned.

After looking at everything worth telling it seems like there will be as many as four or five books written by myself and published by RSD. Three about adventures, one about my evolution and transformation and then another one solely about inner game to compliment an inner game DVD to be released sometime in the medium-distance-future.

The first three books simply outline the adventures I’ve had in a light hearted way. I suppose you could call it humour writing - laugh with me or laugh at me, or plenty of both; or just shake your head and call me a dick head. Either way it will be shocking, entertaining and inspiring. It has been called ‘Dick Lit’ by those who have reviewed it, coarse, honest writing about a guy, for guys. The stories are about being a guy, growing up, getting in too deep, hitting on girls, hooking up with girls, getting in fights, getting out of fights - a young guy’s rich and unpredictable life experiences.

The first book is about the adventures that shaped me before the game. A prelude the RSD lifestyle. All about growing up as a lost dickhead fumbling and bruising my way through the world before finally begging to get some elements of my life under control.

The second book will be the adventures that happened when I was given a ticket to the world, RSD instructor skills with women and a professional income. Imagine taking a poor dickhead with no regard for consequences, giving him money, teaching him how to use his brain, and giving him contextual ‘celebrity status’ wherever he goes. Life gets ridiculous, a life that has to be shared.

The third book is about Europe. Fuck you Europe. Fuck you French experience. (btw, the reason for the unconventionality of my first eight articles was because I was still jaded with France - and Europe to a lesser degree).

The fourth will be about the growth and transformations, Like Jeffy’s book or The Game, a contemporary version of the classic Hero’s Tale. This will be the complete version of the Transformations series that I have started on http://www.alexattitude.com.

And then finally, once I have writing experience, reputability, and some kind of fan base, then I will be granted permission to record a DVD program focusing on game after the Blueprint – specifically real inner game, natural game – interspersed with instantly applicable outer game routines and techniques that newbies love to have fun with. I wanted to do this inner game DVD’s and book first, but the powers that be need a higher profile, before an Alexander~ brand product launch is feasible. And that makes sense.

If you’re a regular around here you’ll notice that alexattitude.com has been quiet recently, that’s ‘cause I’ve been busy learning how to write properly... it’s going to be updated soon with more advanced - long - articles about the stuff you guys want to know about and the stuff you guys can go out and use straightaway. Topics coming up soon included rhythms in the club, frame control, responsivity not reactivity, expression and impression, learning stages, state, transformations part three, getting the set open, club ‘tricks, tips and funtimes’ and being unapologetic. All the same sort of effort and quality that you have seen on http://www.alexattitude.com in the last year or so.

And of course the fun, more light hearted stuff here on the rsdnation homepage.

I have a shitload to write, so I’d better get onto to it.

Plenty of Alexander~ coming to you; for a long time to come.

Stay tuned.
Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | June 24th, 2009 at 5:42 PM
28 Points By Alexander~... Part 2


Here is the next instalment of common mistakes that guys make when it comes to natural game.

7. Whatever you feel, she feels. Remember that women don’t judge you on your status, they don’t judge you on your looks or even on your words. They judge you and react to you based on what feeling you influence them with. That said, its most important that you are always feeling good. Best way to do this is to be a man of action with a path in life, someone who is ballsy and risk taking, someone who is daring and someone who sets out with positive intentions. You were born feeling good with self esteem, so you know that if you get back to natural state then you will feel good. Its only when you try and force things or unnatural do you lose your default good feeling. Be natural, be relaxed and you will achieve the very important goal of feeing good most of the time, and automatically make all girls feel good most of the time. You will be a fun guy to be around.

8. State is chill, not fireworks. This is a big one, most guys have no idea that state is not something exciting, not something flashy or even something extravagant, the coolest people you have known in your life and alpha males all have a chill vibe about them. This is true state, what Jeffy calls a burning coal. It is EASY to be consistently chilled-out or relaxed, it’s as simple as adopting an ‘it’s all good attitude’ and having some willpower to not let petty things get under your skin. If you’re always operating from an ‘it’s all good’ attitude, and you don’t get into bad state by letting people or incidences (the external world) get to you, then simply taking actions of your own choice (following your core) will ignite the nimbus. You will draw state from within. As a man it’s when you’re doing something you want to do that you’re most aroused. You influence others with this arousal and it makes you attractive. This state, unlike fireworks state, is the infinite well and never burns out – making you always attractive.

9. Other’s ARE socially conditioned, have empathy. It doesn’t matter what you have read or what manipulative tricks you know, IF WHAT YOUR DOING DOENST GEL WITH ANOTHER PERSON’S REALITY THEN YOUR NOT GOING TO FIT INTO THAT REALITY. What that means is, if what you’re doing –as good or as slick as you may think it is- doesn’t make sense to the people you are doing it to, you will simply be ignored or not taken seriously. Have an awareness of how those around you are socially conditioned and be responsive to that. Start within the constraints of that, then lead the interaction in your direction – your reality. Just as important, if you continue on, not aware that the way your approaching people doesn’t make sense to them, they will think you lack empathy and give rise to ‘ignore’ responses or straight up blow outs. Be calibrated, use your brains and your empathy.

10. If the girl isn’t gaming you, you’re not going to have sex with the girl. It’s true that people value something they have to work for, or something they think of as higher value than them. And this can be confusing if you are learning cold approach pick up. ‘How can I approach her, then, get the girl gaming me?’ Furthermore, to think that you have to game the girl implies that you are lesser than her, and this implication with become a self fulfilling prophecy to the girl you are interacting with. After all, the way you approach her is the way she makes up her mind about you. The way to get the girl gaming you is in the VALUE INVERSION POINT, what some people call the transition or the point when you go from 90/10 to 50/50 talking ratios. Go in chat, even entertain her and arouse emotions. Then withdraw. This usually elicits a question from the girl. Usually something chodely like ‘where are you from?’ or ‘what do you do?’. This is her gaming you, once you get this going, keep it going, answer with statements (obviously), express yourself to inspire attraction and she will continue to game you. The more she finds herself gaming you (unlike the way guys usually try and game her) the more she will find herself liking you and the closer you’ll be to sleeping with the girl.

11. ... to 28, coming soon.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | July 1st, 2009 at 3:32 PM
28 Points by Alexander~, Part 3


11. Whatever you do, DON’T try for rapport. There are many levels of communication when two people interact and there are subsets of communications within them. To name a few there are verbal, non verbal and physical ways to communicate; and if you want to be more technical there are logical modalities and emotional modalities, direct or indirect. The modalities aren’t as important as using them to ensure you don’t try for rapport. In any interaction people automatically fall into a role of high value and low value. If you’re trying for rapport you will automatically communicate low value, if you don’t, you won’t communicate low value. To try and break rapport is tricky, and to force it is actually a form of trying for rapport. What you will find is that when you are completely natural, as a man, you never try for rapport, and others automatically respond by taking on a subordinate value to you.

12. The girl is down to fuck until otherwise proven innocent. And most guys shoot themselves in the foot pretty quickly, sometimes before they even approach. Many guys fail to realise that girls are constantly on the lookout for that ‘special guy’, in the same way we are on the lookout for that one hot girl in a bikini. To guys, a girl’s looks set her apart. But girls judge a guy’s behaviour, the way you behave is where your potential to be seen as a special guy lies. So when you start an interaction deep down she’s hoping to meet an awesome guy – but doesn’t expect to, and she wouldn’t even know what that looks like when it ran some game on her. If you don’t do anything offensive, or socially retarded to get yourself blown out then you give her a chance to start FINDING in you the things she wants in a guy. Interpretation of behaviour is very subjective, and it helps that the girl is making a conscious effort in life to interpret guys in the way she hopes to see them. So do less, stay in set, don’t shoot yourself in the foot and the you give the girl a chance to be attracted to you.

13. Proactive DHV’s communicate lower value. The ideal of demonstrating higher value is as important in the game now as it ever was. But to go out of your way to demonstrate value to someone is really demonstrating lower value. To tell a clever DHV story to a girl, to do a magic trick or to run some elaborate routine is unnecessary. Proactive DHV’s are the actions of man with a mindset that ‘he is not good enough just as he is’; as opposed to a guy who just assumes value. Girls derive their attraction to you, or not, based on your mindset (which automatically generates your behaviours and autopilot responses). Proactive DHV’s is like showing a girl your Ferrari Key chain – no good because your saying to the girl that guy hiding behind the key chain isn’t enough. If you’re a cool guy the girls will know automatically, if you’re not cool they will know just as quickly.

14. Beating congruence test’s is the way to overtly DHV. If you have even known a cool person in your life you will know that it wasn’t them who convinced you they were cool, someone eluded you to the fact, or their value or ‘coolness’ became apparent when they successfully dealt with a testing situation. They don’t need to convince you they’re cool because they’re already aware they are, you only realise they’re cool once you get to know them. These types of guys are usually extremely chill and unstifled. In the club, what this translates to, is being nicely conversational and expressive. As you talk to the girl you’re bound to elicit congruence tests because that’s what girls do, and the way they interpret you is subjective. If you get a test, an awkward lull in conversation, a ‘we have to go with our friends’, an ‘ I have to go to the bathroom’ or a personal challenge from the girl this is your opportunity to demonstrate higher value with a Positive-Dominant response. You overtly show you can think for yourself, deal with tricky situations, are unreactive and you go for what you want.

15. ... to 28, coming soon.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | July 8th, 2009 at 12:48 PM
28 Points by Alexander~, Part 4


15. Confidence is binary; you’re either confident or you’re a complete chode. You can’t be ninety percent confident. ‘Close but almost confident’ really means that you are just a bitch – or pretending to be a chode. The best understanding I have of confidence is confidence happens when you perceive that nothing holds you back. That’s why five year old kids can be just as confident as multi billionaires or rock stars. It’s all about not having a care in the world. Girl make a very quick attraction judgement based on your confidence which is conveyed in your behaviours. If you hold yourself back in any way... you lose. If you don’t put any mental obstacles between yourself and what you are out to achieve your confident; you’re attractive.

16. ‘Uncomfortable’ is the magic word. You know how many chodes complain that with girls ‘no means yes and yes means no’, this isn’t exactly true but it is true that girls don’t logically communicate what they’re emotionally feeling. Why do they do this? To see what your made of, if you trust yourself and if you have balls. It’s a pure alpha-ness and attractiveness gauge. Most guys don’t realise that girls very rarely communicate socially in the logical and verbal realm, most of what is said becomes redundant, and when you open your eyes to the emotional channels you will understand women much better. Most guys take a simple no, or a lack of enthusiasm from women as gospel, when realy its just a test. I can guarantee that you can take most sets or interactions MUCH further than you think you can, and she wants to see if you have the balls to. Sometimes you will be miscalibrated or you will reach your limits of the set or escalation... you will know when the limit of the interaction is when the girls uses the word ‘uncomfortable’ or any translation of that.

17. Indications of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive. Did you used to read the old emails that advocated that a girl liked you when she licked her lips/played with her hair/touched your arm/took off her skirt? Most did, and most guys are looking for some kind of guidelines to when a girl likes him so he can eliminate the risk of rejection and his chode world coming collapsing down. What’s worse is when you’re searching for traditional ‘IOI’s’ you set out to suck them out of the girl which makes your behaviour even worse. Furthermore, girls rarely think to themselves ‘yes Jessica, I like this guy, I hope he will kiss me in the night’ I’m sure that does happen, but if you’re waiting for that then you’re not going to get the girl because you will miss your window of opportunity. A part of her liking you is when you assume she is interested in you, she will be attracted to a guy with that reality. So, if your still looking for a way to tell if a girl might be interesting in becoming attracted to you look for the ones that are nervous and attentive to you. Quiet, but paying attention to you. This is the same behaviour that a guy would exhibit for a girl that he was very attracted to.

18. Don’t ‘know’; grow. If you’re coming into the community looking to learn how to become a guy who is good with girls it makes sense to you that you need to logically learn something in order to become a guy who is good with girls. No, the game isn’t about learning – the game is all about growing. The reason why ideas, moves and techniques can be appealing is the way they inflate your ego and your false sense of self. Really, knowing inflates your ego, messes up your identity and suppresses your natural self beneath it. To learn human interaction is a intuitive, intangible thing and very difficult to measure. Unless you have academy award winning acting skills there is no way to truly fake it till you make it with learned knowledge because incongruence will still be communicated. Use the knowledge you are gathering from others to guide your growth and change your mindset so you can grow into the guy that you are supposed to be.

Almost there,
Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | July 17th, 2009 at 5:14 PM
28 Points Article by Alexander~, Part 5


19. It is impossible to become a guy who is good with girls. Although the allure of the community advertises that you can ‘become a pimp with women’ and you will be able to ‘fuck 10’s’ it is wrong to say that you will ever be a guy who is good with girls. To say that, is to say that you are above the process and you are not a guy who is going to take action. To identify with ‘being good with girls’ is to cease to take action on a daily basis and lazily rest on your laurels. If you don’t take action then you will cease to approach, cease to move things forward and cease to be good with girls. Some guys get a sharp reality shock when they realise that they can’t ever become a ‘guy who’s good with girls’. But the sooner you realise it’s a futile pursuit the sooner you realise that you have to continue to take action on any given night in any given set. As a man it is correct to identify with being ‘a man of action’ – because that’s what you physically and biologically are. Instead of looking to achieve the identity of being ‘a guy who’s good with girls’ seek to identify yourself as a ‘guy who is always continuing to get good with girls. This is the road to Pick up mastery.

20. Inspire attraction, don’t seduce it. Express yourself, don’t impress others. Whether or not you can be attractive to someone is completely subjective and thus, unpredictable. You can have no idea what will turn on different people, especially when you are cold approaching lots of them. So instead of focusing your efforts on what will impress them and what impression you are going to make, do the things that is sure to inspire attraction in everyone. When you shift your focus from setting out to impress people to, instead, expressing yourself and doing the things that you know will inspire attraction; you’re reality strengthens significantly, others react to you, you become unstifled and most importantly you have lots of fun. They fact that you’re not out to seduce attractive form women and instead are out to inspire it communicates to women you approach that you have all the trust in yourself that you have enough and are enough to be attractive to them. You inspire it in women, you don’t need to trick it out of them, and they come to you.

21. Be involvement worthy. The best way to go about natural game is to be someone worthy of involvement. The best way to think of being good at natural game is to be continually asking yourself ‘Am I being involvement worthy?’. This paradigm has massive emphasis on responsibility, pro-activity and leading. When you continually ask yourself ‘am I involvement worthy’ you move into a headspace where you are continually drawing on yourself to get things started, move conversations forward, formulate ideas and extrapolate social opportunities. In accordance with other natural game principles you know that you’re not going to get the girl unless she’s gaming you, if you’re conversational, assertive and making situations fun then the girls will take it upon themselves to make the most of your time and vie for more of it. Being involvement worthy is like wild male animals expressing themselves hoping to find a mate. In this day and age the guy who has the most to say, is the least stifled and the most expressive that will be the most involvement worthy and get the most girls.

To Be continued...
Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | July 20th, 2009 at 1:14 PM
28 Points, Article by Alexander~, Part 6


22. Get yourself into state. One of the primary differences between men and women is where they get their state from. Women get their state from their environment, whereas men don’t. Higher forces take care of women’s state, but men are indifferent to them. A man’s default state is a chill relaxed positive feeling, in a noisy pumping venue, that’s your baseline, but that’s not enough to be calibrated. A man’s state is proportionate to his ability to be present, positive, dominant and active. If you’re not getting yourself into state the environment will eclipse you and put you deep inside your head. Get busy, do something positive; entertain yourself with stupid bar games. Do something dominant; arm wrestle your friends, lead a girl by the hand, be loud or stand up tall. Do something pro-active, open sets, move around, dance and escalate with girls. These are the best ways to get into state. Another rule of thumb is ‘motion is emotion’, take action and move yourself around, dance, clap your hands and bob your knees and state will come. No one else will do it for you.

23. Keep Things Simple While Learning. Once you make a significant transformation towards a guy who is in congruence with himself you will realise that natural game is a minimalist thing; you’re strong reality and intent leading the girl with continual calibrated responsivity. But if you still have lots of mental noise from residual social conditioning make an effort to keep things simple, your end goal should always be ‘no mind, all intuition’. So when you go out make an effort to think about only three things for once. If your new, three good things are ‘friendly, unapologetic, draw state from within’. A more intermediate three might be ‘assertiveness with a smile, lead, can’t get blown out from escalating’ and an advanced three might be ‘every man starts equal, be 100% honest with yourself and others, and persistence beat resistance’. If you go out while you’re learning the game with truckloads of theory spinning around in your head you will only get out of state and reverse good progress you have made. It’s likely that you would be so inside your complicated head that you don’t even approach.

24. There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory. The classical notion of ‘having a crush on a girl’ is one of the most unnatural and destructive forces that counter natural game. The Dynamics of the crush is one of the biggest limiting factors fort guys learning natural game. To have a crush on a girl is to build up an idea of her in your own mind that is completely fabricated and usually vastly different from reality. People think they have a crush on a girl because having a girl who is their ‘type’ appeals to their ego and their attempt to project a particular sense of self. You don’t know a person, or a girl, until you have spent a lot of time with them. It’s natural that you treat everyone equally and don’t assume anything and wait and see if you cultivate affection for the girl or not. When you develop a crush on a girl you go into chode mode. Even when you get the girl you have a crush on you will eventually get a reality shock when you realise what you thought she was isn’t what she actually is. All attractive girls are good. Like flavours of ice cream, appreciate them all, and after lots of experience then you can develop a preference.

Last instalment next,
Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | August 4th, 2009 at 1:19 AM
28 Points, Article By Alex~, Part 7


25. For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing, ‘clicking’. On the broadest scale of picking up girls from cold approaches socially versatility is the most important thing. Not your skills, or your methods or structures. If you are going to make cold approaches on strangers you need to have the versatility and manoeuvrability in who you are and your personal boundaries in order to click with and get into conversation with anyone. An egotistical person usually has an identity that hold blind spots and can cause him to have friction with new people that he meets including girls he’s cold approaching. An ‘easy going’ type of guy, a guy with self esteem and no ego, isn’t restrained by a reality and an identity that he is bound to – or that he feels he has to project onto others. The result is he clicks with everyone and assumes nothing. When you are a fluid and socially versatile, egoless, guy you become someone that everyone likes to hang out with because they are all coming from the same headspace of’ trying to make an impression’. When they interact with you they will feel as though they have made just the impression they want, and you will stoke their ego. Stoking the ego of other’s especially girls, leaves them wanting more of it, people will look to you to ‘fill their bucket with a hole in it.’

26. Its incongruent of you not to be sexual. One of the things that students of natural game most often forget is their tenancy to be sexual. A nice guy who has undergone the transformation to sexworthy guy was once a nice guy and still harbours reserved and stifled physical tendencies. If your an alpha male and attractive to girls, and you don’t have a physical and sexual dimension to your game, girls will become weirded out by you and leave you cold. When you become advanced your approach will be great and most girls will like you a lot immediately, but sooner or later if you don’t take things sexual you will miss your ‘window of opportunity’. If you don’t have the sexual and physical dimension to your game the girls will have a bruised ego that a guy who they liked and found was attractive didn’t want to make a move on her and they will quickly disassociate with you to minimalize ego bruising. Or, they will go from thinking you are a fun dominant alpha male, to thinking you are just a garden variety nice guy, and no girls are attracted to a nice guy.

27. The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled – not happy. The first judgement a girl will make of you when you cold approach her is whether or not she gets a good feeling from you. Do you increase her life experience or do you take away from it. It’s all well and good to be happy in the club, but a happy feeling is a fleeting and superficial thing. If you have fulfilment in your life then you will constantly have a feeling of confidence, security and positivity. Girls are not necessarily looking for a happy feeling from guys, they are looking to him to she is he feels good, fulfilled and secure in himself, to hang out with a guy who is fulfilled and secure in himself will give a girl very good feelings and she will know if your fulfilled in your life almost immediately. To be fulfilled have a purpose and a direction in life, this is to be in congruence with always being a man of action. Others ways to find fulfilment as a man are to positively lead others, take action and always be progressing. Simple things to achieve to ensure you have good natural game when it comes to cold approaching.

28. There is no right thing to say, it’s the right thing to say because you are the one who’s saying it. This is the best possible summary of natural game, and it in sharp contrast to traditional ideas about game. On the purest level natural game is about being resourceful and relying on yourself. This ties in with idea of creativity, spontaneity and ‘turning nothing into something’. Evolutionarily, it was the cavemen who could completely rely on themselves and trust themselves – not need advice or guidance from others – that set off the attraction triggers in cave women’s heads. A man who can turn nothing into something through action an responsibility has evolutionary advantages that other don’t have, and a guy like this generates natural attraction, and is good at natural game. When you realise that there is no ‘one right thing’ to do or say at any time in the game you become unstifled in such a way that you can do everything with conviction –whether good or bad - and this communicates confidence and inspires attraction. The minute you look to others to for the right thing to do or say you communicate all the wrong things. When you realise that there is nothing ‘right to say’ it’s as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, and you establish an unwavering feeling of fulfilment and posivity in you that will make you an elite level natural gamer.

Here are the 28 points in their entirety.

Be yourself

Be Natural.

Don’t calculate and micromanage

Be unapologetic

As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you can’t get for yourself

Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.

Whatever you feel, she feels8. State is chill, not fireworks.

Other’s ARE socially conditioned, have empathy.

If the girl isn’t gaming you, you’re not going to have sex with the girl.

Whatever you do, DON’T try for rapport.

The girl is down to fuck until otherwise proven innocent.

Proactive DHV’s communicate lower value.

Beating congruence test’s is the way to overtly DHV.

Confidence is binary; you’re either confident or you’re a complete chode.

‘Uncomfortable’ is the magic word.

Indications of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive.

Don’t ‘know’; grow.

It is impossible to become a guy who is good with girls.

Inspire attraction, don’t seduce it. Express yourself, don’t impress others.

Be involvement worthy.

Get yourself into state.

Keep Things Simple While Learning.

There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory.

For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing, ‘clicking’

Its incongruent of you not to be sexual.

The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled – not happy

There is no right thing to say, it’s the right thing to say because you are the one who’s saying it.

...Print it out and put it somewhere you’re going to read it every day.

Alexander~
PS. Longer articles on all of these in due course.

BY Alexander~ | August 17th, 2009 at 12:53 PM
Go To The Gym – Fatass. Part 1, The Principles.


I have a sticking point. It’s not a real sticking point, I made it for myself. The problem is you don’t have to be a good looking or buff guy to get girls. So what motivation does a guy have to stay in shape? We’ll, not dying is a good one. But if you’re going out, drinking, eating and ruining your metabolism AND you understand that your physique has almost no bearing on your ability to pick up, you’re gonna get pretty fat pretty quick.

I got really fat and I considered it be unacceptable. But I didn’t do anything about it because I had no bearing on my social influence and whether or not I attracted girls. I saw no need to do anything about it, until i woke up one day and thought to myself...I’m god damn fat. Yuk.

Even then, I didn’t really take staying in shape or being in shape seriously. I just went on my merry way eating burgers, drinking beer and going to sleep at 8 am every morning of the week. Soon things got violently out of hand. I began with the crash course diets to try and fight the losing battle that was getting worse and worse.

Problem was I, like most people, had no idea what it takes to get in shape and stay in shape. The great masses don’t understand the principles the way they should... and if you look outside, you will see that the great masses are fat.

So, after trying many crash courses, intense diets and ridiculous exercise regimes I created my sticking point. I convinced myself that girls and people would never like me unless I was in good shape. I absolutely convinced myself of this. Slowly and surely I began to hate myself to the point where I fell into depression. Finally I had motivation enough to discipline myself to get into shape. But I had no idea how to get into shape, or even where I could learn about it.

But now I do, and I’m going to share it. One of the hardest things to do is maintain a healthy lifestyle and a good pick up lifestyle. To learn and master pick up its important to go out several nights a week. But, this almost always compromises your diet, you’re workout regime and you’re sleeping habits. This will make you unhappy about your weight, and sooner or later, your sense of self as well.

I’ve been taught a diet that sustains but weight loss and muscle gain, without compromising your ability to go out several nights a week. First, understand a few commonly misunderstood principles.

Most people think that spending hours on the treadmill or cardio machine is the key to losing weight. This is partially true but not the way you want to go about getting into shape. Cardio workout’s call on stored energy, and energy in your food pipeline – the things you have eaten recently. So when you go to do lots of cardio you pretty much just burn what you eaten recently.

If you do longer cardio, exceeding 30 minutes duration, you will begin to tap into stored energy in your body, namely muscle and fat. According to workout books and personal trainers the general consensus is that you will burn 60% muscle and 40% fat when you do longer cardio training. This is no good. You need the muscle. And there is no point having low body fat if you have no muscle definition.

Ultimately, cardio burns little to no fat anyway. The amount is negligible after you burn what you have eaten recently and begin to scratch the surface of stored fats. So you could do an hour of cardio and barely lose any fat at all. You will however be left with a massive energy deficit that will most often leave you wanting to binge eat and sleep to make up for the exhausting work out. In terms of lifestyle, excessive cardio is no good.

The real key to burning fat is having a good metabolism. Think of your metabolism as your body’s economy – and your energy turnover, your food input and your exercise excursion, your currency. If you have a fast economy you spend a lot. If you have a slow economy then you spend little. If you have a fast metabolism you need to eat a lot to retain fat, if you have a low metabolism you need to eat a little bit to retain the fat. Obviously, we want to burn the fat, getting you in shape.

The idea is to speed up your economy so that when there is a deficit between how fast your metabolism is running and how much is has to run on. When there is a deficit it will eat into stored fats, but not stored muscles. Muscles are the most important thing to speed up the economy of your metabolism.

Think of each of your muscles as a store or a trading outlet. It requires energy and it can expend it. Some are small and some are big. All require a constant expenditure of energy to maintain them. Doing long cardio eats away at your muscles, slowing down your economy, meaning that if you eat a standard westernised diet you are going to get fatter every day because the energy you eat has nowhere to be expended.

The answer then is to create bigger muscles and do less cardio. With a good muscular frame it’s like having a collection of trading outlets that need constant currency to be maintained. This means you can eat a standardised western diet and retain your weight, or even lose weight, because there will be a deficit in the food energy you eat, and the food energy required to retain the muscles. This is a good lifestyle, you can eat a regular diet and you are never exhausted from copious amounts of training.

If you go down the track of doing lots of cardio and eat a low energy diet, the minute you get into shape, stop doing cardio and start eating again, then you will get really fat again and achieve the weight ‘yo-yo’ effect.

Another factor that contributes to a good metabolism is consistency of energy turnover. This is like consistent economic turn over. If your body is used to doing exercise and used to eating regularly then it will be become very efficient at burning the energy it is regularly getting. So, shorter and more regular exercise and smaller, more consistent meals. If you’re expending lots of energy and you’re feeding that expenditure rate as soon as you create a deficit in expenditure and energy you burn fat merely as a function of your metabolism.

This is the best and most consistent way to go about burning fat. Instead of crash diets, having no energy and completely changing your lifestyle to something unrealistic and unsustainable.

So what you want is an exercise regime that will built muscle, not burn muscle with excessive cardio, allow a normal diet and a normal lifestyle. Best of all, you will look awesome and feel awesome all the time. What you do; next article..
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Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | August 26th, 2009 at 2:02 PM
Go to the Gym - Fatass. Part Two, What to Do


Last article, I spoke about the misconceptions of a healthy lifestyle. Here's the user friendly guide to getting your ass in shape and feeling like a million bucks.

Join a Gym and Workout Five Days a Week

Five days a week? Going to the gym should be the first thing you do every morning. For the rest of your working life. If you are going to work for the day you should start the day with a 40 minute workout. If you don’t think you have time set your alarm earlier and go. Going to the gym itself will be the way to wake yourself up and make a good start to the day. it’ll also leave you feeling good for the rest of the day. Going to the gym early kick starts your metabolism for the day. Even though it’s not a strenuous workout, it will do enough to get your heart rate up and your metabolism racing for the day. Other benefits include setting a healthy precedent for the day. Instead of going to work or school or college feeling flat and sleeping, you start out feeling fresh, alert and as though you’ve already achieved something with your day. This good feeling has infinite positive side effects. You spend the first half of your day recovering from your gym workout and you accumulate muscle during this rebuilding phase.

Do High Intensity, Short Duration Cardio Every Day

Every day of your life you should spend twenty minutes getting your heart rate to its absolute threshold. This trains your body to speed up your metabolism and become extremely efficient at burning food including fats and carbohydrates. If you plan to do this sometime in your afternoon, after work, school or university then you get your heart rate up for the rest of the day and evening and you can create an energy deficit by not overeating at dinner time or dessert. This way, you will lose weight, but not lose your energy. The high intensity workout will leave you refreshed energised.


Eat Properly

Having a good diet isn’t rocket science. With general day-to-day activities, you will burn plenty of calories and energy everyday just by getting out of bed. When you have a fast food meal or a pizza, you take on more calories than you can handle in one day and the result is, you get fat. If you want to make a concentrated effort to lose fat, focus on only eating natural unprocessed foods. Easy to keep track of that. There is an easy to follow example diet below. When you eat healthy you constantly have energy, you feel fresh and you regain a youthful and energetic demeanour.

The Effects of Alcohol

Alcohol isn’t bad for you on its own, it’s all the negative side effects that ruin your life. Alcohol is super concentrated energy and is served with hops or sugary mixer drinks making it almost lethal to your health. Alcohol takes a long time to be broken down by your liver so it brings your metabolism and fat-burning abilities to a grinding halt. Whenever you drink alcohol, your body focuses solely on fighting the poison and any other fats or carbohydrates become automatically stored instead of processed; this is why most people think that ‘alcohol makes you fat’, especially because most people eat junk food when they are drinking or when they come home from drinking. If you are going to drink do it once or twice a week. Stick to straight spirits and don’t eat junk food in recovery or during the binge session.

Dietary Supplements

Most people think they can rely merely on supplements to compensate for an unhealthy lifestyle. Supplements say they ‘might help with the process of whatever’, not reliably. So you need to live a lifestyle that nurtures the function of dietary supplements. The most important supplements to have are vitamins, thermogenics, fat metabolisers, protein supplements, muscle recovery and fish oil. There is an example of what to take and when below.

Get Ripped

Guys with big muscles feel good. Big muscles also produce plenty of testosterone and keep you feeling good and assertive – and let’s be honest – it’s cool to think you can move heavy things. Most guys train muscle to fatigue, not failure. Fatigue is when you do 10-15 repetitions in a set and your muscles get tired. If you go to failure you simply go to the point where you can no longer push the weight, this is much less strenuous and much more effective at growing noticeably bigger muscles. So, to do sets of between 6-8 reps where you are failing somewhere between the 6-8 reps, you should be lifting almost the heaviest possible weight you can. The results of training to failure, not fatigue, are immediately noticeable and leave you feeling instantly awesome. Don’t overtrain cardio or you will eat away at your muscles that you have worked hard to accumulate. Eat well to give the muscles the necessary protein and energy to maintain themselves on a daily basis.

When working out it's good to pump up your muscles before you reach for your max weights. For the main body part you intend to train on any given day you should warm it up like this:

Say you are doing bench press, shoulder press, squats, or biceps on your 100% weight where you fail between 6-8 reps...

Start with 12 reps at 40% weight to warm up.

Do 8 reps at 60% weight to pump the muscles full of blood and the supplements you had before you went to train.

Do 4 reps at 80% to prepare the joints.

Do 2 reps at 90% to prime the joints for the workout that day.

Get Some Sleep

If you going to go out on the weekend you won’t have the best night’s sleep, but you can compensate for this with a sleep-in. During the week it’s of vital important that you get between 6 and 8 hours of sleep a night to give your muscles and body a chance to recover from your daily workouts and exercise. If you are working out in the morning and at night you will sleep extremely well every night and wake up the next day energised and rearing to go both mentally and physically. It’s important to wake up with the sun or with an alarm otherwise your body’s rhythm will get out of whack with a 24 day rhythm.


Have a Routine

You need to train your body to expect certain things to happen at certain times. When you have a routine your body expects that it will be called on to burn energy or process foods at certain intervals. When you have this routine you will steadily release energy instead of hoarding it and converting it to fat. If you’re in a routine then you can create situations where you have a deficit between what your body expects to burn and what energy (foods) you are supplying it with, resulting in you losing weight. Try to have a daily routine that works on a similar time frame everyday regardless of what time you get up in the morning. That way you have flexibility in your life and you can stay healthy and stay in good shape in many different situations.

An Implementable Plan that You Can Use Straight Away

The following is my plan that is simple and easy to implement straight away. It contains details about working out, eating, sleeping and supplements. If you do this for one week you will feel and look significantly better. This is of vital important when it comes to your self-esteem, your sense of entitlement and your mindset for getting girls.

Weekdays Diet Routine

Wake up – Thermogenics (hydroxycut or something similar to jolt your metabolism), protein shake with dextrose (fast absorbed sugar) and L-Glutamine Powder (protein and recovery agents to get the most out of your morning workout), fat metaboliser.

Workout – 30-40 minutes low rep heavy weights workout. Aim to do no more than ten sets in the morning after your warm up sets.

End of work out – Another protein shake with protein powder, dextrose and L-Glutamine powder. 1 dose of multivitamins, 1000iu of Vitamin E, 2000mg of Vitamin C (vitamins to strengthen your immune system after it’s weakened during your workout).

Go to work or school.

About an hour after workout – Meat/Tuna/Chicken and a medium sized potato. Something like a tuna salad is good in this instance. I have three kangaroo sausages and a boiled potato.

About two hours after the workout – Meat/Tuna/Chicken and a medium sized potato. Same as before: source of energy, protein source for workout recovery and metabolism kick with injection of food.

About 3 hours after workout - Meat/Tuna/Chicken and vegetables. This usually falls around lunch or 11am, a chicken salad with minimum dressing is great for this meal. I have chicken breast and reheated snap frozen broccoli. Daily dosage of fish oil.

5-6 hours after workout – Meat and Vegetables, Same as before, smaller afternoon tea sized serving. Another chicken salad or a wrap from a fast food outlet is ok.

8 hours after workout – Meat/Tuna/Chicken and vegetables, same as earlier, small serving. I sometimes substitute this with trail mix mixed nuts. The sugar from the fruit gives you a lift in the afternoon while still getting protein, good oils and fibre from the nuts.

Finish work, school, or being a dropout for the day.

In the later afternoon or evening – 20 minutes intense cardio session. Good to have thermogenics before this to crank up your metabolism ready to take on the work out. Good cardio session can be done on an elliptical machine, step machine or bike machine. Do 20 minutes interval training program on the bike with an aim to get your heart rate as high as possible. Each cardio session aim to get back to the maximum heart rate you have previously achieved and try to match and exceed how many calories you burned during your previous work out.

Dinner, Last meal of the day – Meat/Fish/Chicken and salad. Fruit for dessert.

Weekend Diet Routine

Try and follow the same routine following the same timeframe after you have woken up. If you are going out clubbing, take packets of beef jerky with you to the club. They fit in your pocket and go great with whatever you are drinking. Jerky is cheap, healthy, fibrous and high in protein. If you’re going to be out for a long time take two packets. On weekends, substitute the short high intensity cardio for longer low intensity recovery cardio like a job or a bike ride or running on the treadmill watching the TVs in the gym.

Weekly Workout Routine

Whatever body part you want to focus most on, you should do so on Monday. Otherwise, the order of days you do different body parts is pretty much interchangeable.

Most exercises are two sets of 6-8, ensuring you fail between 6-8 reps.

Monday – Shoulder press warm up, 2 sets shoulder press, 2 sets lateral raises, 2 sets posterior deltoid raises (shoulder raises where you lean forward and work the back shoulder muscles), 2 sets of Swedish ball ab crunches (up to twenty), 2 sets of leg raises holding yourself down with a weight or holding onto something (up to twenty).

Tuesday – No warm up for back, Three sets of chins ups – pull up to your chest not chin, 2 sets seated row with a horizontal bar, 2 sets pull downs –leaning back using the ‘v’ grip on the cable pulling inwards towards your chest, 2 dead lifts (get gym people to show you how to do this safely).

Wednesday – Squats warm up, 2 sets squats, 2 sets leg press, 2 sets hamstring curl, 3 sets calf raises.

Thursday – Bench press warm up – 3 sets bench press (or dumb bell press), 2 sets incline bench press (or dumbbell press), 2 sets up triceps pull downs (up to 15 reps), 2 sets of dips.

Friday – Bicep warm up, 2 sets of barbell curl, 2 sets of dumbbell curls, 3 sets of abdominal prone holds, 2 sets Swedish ball crunches, 2 sets leg raises.

Weekends – no resistance training, just recovery and some light low intensity cardio, but retain diet for continued muscle repair.

How Does Getting into Shape Help You Get Girls?

You don’t need to be in shape to be good with girls. It's the mindset of the guy who takes pride in himself and the fact that you’re a guy who takes responsibility for things in his reality that makes you attractive.

On a biological level, you fell literally amazing within your body when you lead an active and healthy lifestyle. This feeling is translated to the girls you talk to, as opposed to a shit feeling of guilt from being fat and lazy.

Being a healthy and active person attracts healthy and active people. Hot girls are hot because they are healthy and active.

Being fit and healthy gives you the energy to go out and be social for several nights a week without crashing or needing to rely on amphetamines: important if you are out to learn pick up.

Being in good shape does wonders for your sense of entitlement. Even though some guys generate loads of attraction if they are ugly or out of shape, they don’t acknowledge it to themselves. When you are making an effort to get yourself in shape, your sense of entitlement goes through the roof and girls notice this clearly.

And on an extreme note, being in good shape might eventually lead you to becoming a Calvin Klein model. That way you would find out where the CK girls hang out and have a chance to meet and party with them. That’s why I'm working hard to get in shape.

Alex~

BY Alexander~ | September 2nd, 2009 at 2:40 PM
Some Not So In-Depth Ideas about Rapport


I originally had the intention of writing a very long academic article about rapport because it's very in-depth, but for now here are some preliminary ideas for you to take onboard and put into practice in the meantime.

With the evolution away from the traditional style of game, the idea of rapport has seen a lot less attention than it used to see. From a chode's point of view, getting to know a girl – or gaining rapport with her, is what he thinks is the key to getting in with her, and this is still true. But, with the intense positive dominance and flaming Nimbus at RSD centres all around the world, the whole idea of comfort game and rapport has been superseded altogether and been replaced by one night stand focus and simply letting intense attraction get you girls. Rapport is being dangerously overlooked.

In my experience, the better the girl is all-around – the more options she has, the more tests you have to pass to get that girl. There are countless examples of where this isn’t the case, but quality persistence beats resistance, and it's rapport that happens during that persistence.

But before you get caught up thinking about rapport in the traditional sense of the game, forget about it. Those ideas are nowhere near as good as natural game ideas. Rapport doesn’t arise from mere interaction time or elaborate twirly-whirly techniques. Rapport with a girl – getting to know her, comes from your integrity. How quickly and how deeply you have rapport with her comes down to how closely who you are and what you do are in congruence.

To have integrity is by definition (in this context), when what you do is the same as what you think. So, your actions line up with your mindset, as opposed to being manipulative, lacking authenticity, or having an ego. If you don’t have integrity, people don’t know exactly who you are or what you're about. If they don’t know you, they can’t gain rapport with you. When you do have integrity, people know who you are and this gives rise to the very backbone of rapport: TRUST. When they trust you because what they see is what they’re getting, they can make a massive emotional investment in you and know it to be trustworthy. Voila, you have rapport.

Think of examples when you have met people who you can just instantly get along with: who you instantly trust. They are trustworthy because of the behavioural dichotomy I mentioned above. But most importantly, they don’t manipulate you. Instead, they have integrity. You feel like you can trust them and most often you instantly do. These sorts of people are the keepers of lots of other peoples' secrets.

People who are cool or popular have massive rapport with everyone because they have integrity just the same with everyone they meet. The social characteristics of someone who has integrity – and thus gains deep rapport with everyone he meets – is chillness, openness and personal boundaries. He's calm and level-headed. He's expressive because he has nothing to hide or be ashamed about, and he knows when to draw the line on how people are calling him out or bossing him around. Basically he can click with anyone and chat to anyone for a long time, further emphasizing rapport and a hot girl's trust in you as a man, as opposed to her mistrust in other men.

Important as well is once you get into this mindset, girls and other guys will almost instantly recognize you as a man of integrity and categorize you as a cool or attractive guy. This works massively in your favour when you are going out picking up girls from cold approaches.

The longer you spend with a girl, the more she will test you. The more she tests you, the more she gets to know who you are and what sort of guy you are. The more she knows what kind of a guy you are, the better she trusts you and gains rapport with you. The better she trusts you, the sooner she will be comfortable to be intimate with you: you get the girl. If you have the integrity, you will emaciate congruence tests and very quickly establish trust, not as a function of your moves or lines, but simply because you are an awesome guy.

If you are not yet an awesome guy, then you have some work to do, and the best way to do that is through social immersion by learning about yourself, others, the world, and exploring your boundaries. Sometimes you forget who you are if you don’t have an avenue by which to express yourself. Without that, your sense of self can dissolve into nothing and leave you with a weak reality and little to trust. So for the beginners, here are some guidelines...

There are two types of rapport: wide rapport and deep rapport. Wide rapport is where you ask lots of general questions like ‘where are you from?’, ‘what is your job?’, ‘what’s your all time favourite movie?’ and that sort of thing. You can throw out as many as fifty of these sort of questions in a short amount of time and there's a good chance you'll have at least a few things in common with the girl, or you will stumble onto topics that lead you to find commonalities with the girl. Also, while you have this sort of conversation you get back in touch with yourself and you give the girl a chance to revel in herself as well.

With deep rapport you have a chance to cultivate trust with the girl by asking more soul-searching questions that help to communicate with her core and help you to get in touch with and express your own core. Questions like ‘what were you like when you were growing up?’, ‘what is your dream job?’, ‘who are your heroes in life?’ and ‘what are some of the most important things you are going to teach your children?’ cut straight to the core of a person and call on them to express their more guarded emotions and their real self.

If you can get in a situation where you are talking from your real self to the girl's real self, you have a situation where both of you have high integrity with each other, plenty of trust and great rapport. Keep on chatting for ages and rapport gets deeper and deeper and deeper. The ∞ sign in the attraction equation indicates that the better you get to know the girl the more she is going to be attracted to you.

Another important way to think about rapport is the extent to which a girl makes an emotional investment in you. And from that investment, like everyone, she wants a return from it. But beware that if you make more of an emotional investment in her than she does in you then she’s going to be less outcome-dependant on a return than you are, and you will drive the girl away.

Bottom line though is that the better you get to know her, the quicker, and better you will be at picking up girls.

Have integrity, get girls.

Alexander~

BY Alexander~ | September 14th, 2009 at 2:51 PM
“Strength of Reality” Part One


Somebody asked me recently on rsdnation: “What does it mean to have a strong reality, and why is it even important?” This was asked on a forum that focuses on how to be attractive to women and how to be good at picking up girls.

The short answer to this question is: a strong reality is when you have a strong sense of self and a very strong understanding and perception of the world around you, to the point where you play a part in defining it. The reason why it is important is because as a guy, you will always be able to have a stronger reality than women. Men have an ability to have a stronger reality than women (in an emotional and social sense), because you can have a stronger reality than women, you have something that they don’t and that is something of value to them. This makes you attractive. Most importantly, when you have a strong reality you automatically behave in a way that inspires a woman’s attraction triggers. Attraction means getting girls; this was the purpose of the question.

That’s a pretty complicated short answer with many different components. It begs the following questions: What makes a reality strong? How do I know when it's strong? What is a perception of the world? What does it have to do with your sense of self? What are the differences between men’s realities and women’s realities? If I don’t have a strong reality, how can I get one - and how can I keep it? How does having a strong reality make you behave in attractive ways? All these things are massively important to being good with women, but for most people they have no idea this paradigm exists, or even what it means. So, I’d better answer the questions for everyone so your reality can be stronger, you can behave in attractive ways and get lots of hot girls in your life.

First of all you need to understand why it’s important for a human to have a strong reality. Human beings, unlike most organisms on Earth are social creatures. The reason why we have evolved in the way that we have is because we have a co-dependence on other people in our society or tribe. In societies and tribes there is a culture, or a socially-conditioned standard. In modern society, our culture is socially-conditioned in ways that keep people in place, that way they won’t clash with each other, kill each other and continue to drive primal natural selection.

So, because humans have evolved to want to fit into the culture, they strive to form an identity that contributes to, and is recognized, by their culture. Everyone wants to fit in and be acknowledged by everyone around them. The usual way of forming a strong reality is the age old struggle to fit in and feel special. For example, take a 14th century village. There is the village doctor, the village blacksmith, the village drunk and the village idiot. Each of these people have a role in society and they are acknowledged for their role. When people meet them, they immediately understand who they are and what they do. That way, they fit in. The more they fit in, the more the collective co-dependence of human society will protect them. When each of these people fit into society, they feel secure.

This feeling of security gives these people a strong reality. The feeling of security, and the formation of a strong reality –be it village doctor or village drunk – brings with it good feelings. On the deepest level, good feeling is the natural innate impulse that drives every human being in every single thing they do.

The reason why a modern day bum, or the example of the village idiot, can live the way they do is that they feel secure in who they are and what they do, and this gives them a good feeling. The good feeling that comes from feeling secure is significantly more powerful than the good feelings that comes from having money and being respected. That is the importance of fitting into human society and culture. When you understand this, it will become clear why people let themselves identify with being assholes, bums, drunks, victims or any other negative identity. They then, at least, have something to identity with that gives them a strong reality - that makes them feel good, because they feel secure...


BY Alexander~ | September 25th, 2009 at 5:51 PM
“Strength of Reality” Part 2


People will look to have 'who they are' reinforced over and over again, in the things that they do and the ways in which they behave. For example, sometimes you will meet stoners who make a point to brag about how ‘fucked up’ they got. Or you might meet an athlete who makes a point to drop into conversation how well he played. You might meet a village drunk who will introduce himself to you as the village drunk. In the community, you might meet someone who identifies with being a victim or a chode. Even though he doesn't want to be a chode, he automatically and unconsciously does things to reinforce it because the human brain has evolved to try and reinforce its sense of self, so that the owner of the brain fits into society and survives.

By that same standard, if you met a doctor and you failed to acknowledge him in the way that he wanted you to acknowledge him, then his ego (sense of self or identity) would be bruised or he would work hard to get your acknowledgement or validation. You as a human are part of their society and another potential point of leverage for people to use to reinforce their reality and feel good.

In understanding that all people are always seeking validation and acknowledgement from the other people around them to fit into society, you will also understand that your strength of reality will always be determined by how others see you. Furthermore, you will understand that you will always be at the mercy of how others see you – which carries with it massive amounts of anxiety or bad feelings because you worry about not fitting in. So most people set out to make themselves rich, famous or something they THINK will get them massive and consistent acknowledgement from everyone they meet, to give them a massive and consistent good feeling. Some people do achieve this, like successful movie stars, rock stars, drug lords or sports stars. They would have a massively strong reality because everyone acknowledges them consistently for their role in society.

But the bigger this bubble of acknowledgment grows, the more potential it has to burst. That is to say, as good as you can feel and as strong as your reality can grow through consistent social acknowledgment, it can also feel just as bad if you don’t get acknowledged and then your reality can be shattered. Similar to an Achilles heel.

A great example are rock stars. They strive to become a great musician and they strive to become well-known and famous. Soon, if they are good enough and they do become famous, then everyone knows their name and they know what they are famous for. At this point, they would be on top of the world and think they have realized what they set out to achieve – a super strong and invincible reality. Everyone sees them the way they want to be seen, which leads the rock star to see himself the way everyone is seeing him. Because he, like all human beings, understands that fitting into society is important for survival, he takes society’s perception of him seriously.

But, if society turns on the rock star or questions the rock star then he will be inclined to take the criticism just as seriously as he took the positive reinforcement. In interviews with rock stars, they often say that the fame isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Many rock stars end up turning to drugs to deal with problems arising from skewed and intense fluctuations in social feedback and fluctuations in their reality. With the fluctuations in their reality comes fluctuations in how good they can feel about themselves. Drugs are often the answer because only they can provide a feeling good enough to rival the sort of social validation that a rock star gets.