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-She has one force that is her desire to be desired. This craving is insatiable, it’s like a tidal wave that rushes through her psyche and her body all the time. She longs to be looked at, to be noticed, to be wanted, to be so sexy that men can’t resist her, and other women can’t resist hating her. This is the main reason girls both love to get naked, and/or show off their bodies in as many ways as they can(always of course while protesting to the contrary). There’s no such thing as too much attention, as long as it’s not always coming from the same source.
-She has her ever present lust to obtain resources. This is rooted in her hypergamous need to seek out the strongest seed, and to trade up whenever possible to get the best deal. Provision, protection, status, she will take as much as she can get, by official or unofficial whoredom, with no apologies and no regrets. If you could literally give a woman the moon, she would soon ask you if you could relocate to a new Earth that had two moons, so she could have that second one too.
-It’s her third desirous force that seems to present the biggest head scratching conundrum for males, because it oft manifests itself in behavior that would seem to indicate the opposite. It’s rooted in the fact that Adam both named Eve and called her a woman. She longs to be dominated and conquered by a man stronger than she is; a man so powerful that he can plant his flag over her first two desires and bring her under control. She longs to be whatever you call her; she longs to be defined by the strength and the naming of her man. And, whatever you call her will imprint on her mind. If you think she’s attractive, and say so, she will think so; if you call her fat, she’ll see that when she looks in the mirror.
Now you can see why girls crave their father’s everything, and why women that are 10s are so shocked by men that ignore them. When a woman is a 10 she’s gotten used to men falling all over her with gifts and compliments, as men have been doing so since she was 13 years old. So a man that doesn't is a mystery and an anomaly to her mind. She must know why this man is seemingly immune to her charms, as all the other men seem not to be. It’s also the quiet but nagging insecurity trip of every pretty girl. Her mind is always saying, “Yah but…am I really pretty? And…for how long?”
By understanding these three internal forces, you ought to be able to see where much of human behavior comes from. Women that keep trying to prove that they are “strong” and “independent” are actively trying to reject their third desire, and acquire resources on their own. To literally not be defined by a man, as they’ve been told that that part of femininity is weak and needs to be categorically rejected. And when they do, they wake up in midlife in Spinsterville having never been married, childless, and often suicidally lonely.
And why? Because as much as they claim they don’t want to belong to a man, their deepest yearning is just the opposite. They want their life full of the smell of his strength and status(and last name), and they want their belly continually full of his babies. The more they can put an apron on you and tell you to get in the kitchen and fix them a sandwich, the more sexual attraction is running out of them like a car with a hole in the gas tank. And God help you if you are one of those men that has taken his wife’s last name. Ugh. She was cheating on you at the wedding. Go rewatch the footage.
Women that are constantly shrieking about how “they don’t need a man” are fighting themselves, consciously or not, and that’s the source of the outwardly manifested turmoil and turpitude. This is also why men that acquiesce, and give them whatever they want without conquering them or defining them produce that sense of “something’s missing.” Whenever a woman has to talk herself into gratitude, i.e., “I’ve got a man that’s good to me and loves me, why aren’t I haaaapy?” it’s because he hasn’t been strong enough to define her. Put her in her place. Conquer her. Name her. Make her his. TINGLES, motherfoogers. That’s what she yearns for more than anything.
The secret that women will never tell you is that these swirling forces inside of them tend to really overwhelm them. Sometimes they hate themselves for what they’ve done, and would do, just to achieve validation. Oh what a girl will do just to feel wanted, even if it’s only temporary. It’s why girls have a Walk of Shame, and guys really don’t (unless it’s seriously ugly chicks). It’s why girls love to do what Jamie Foxx said and blame it on the alcohol(which doesn’t turn you into someone you’re not, it just lowers your inhibitions). Because they don’t really want to admit the truth out loud, that they are constantly craving male attention, validation, definition, and domination, and they’ll sleep with many a guy just to try and drown out that unsilenceable siren blaring in their souls. Their hypergamy combined with their attention whoring is what has been unleashed without restraint through feminism, and now you should be able to see why feminists fight so hard against the third desire for domination. Why do you think women want to be spanked, tied up, pounded senseless sexually, and have rape fantasies? Let’s examine Amazon’s description of Fifty Shades of Grey, shall we?
"When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms. Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires. Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever. This book is intended for mature audiences."
Didja catch all that? Why do you think women have responded to this work by the millions, just like Twilight before it? Because it speaks to everything that they want. A beautiful but intimidating man sets his own terms for having her because he can’t resist her, and she, caught in his wake, has the rationalization she needs to let her own inner skank loose. Because without being taken and owned by a man, women still feel out of control about the first two of their desires, and still don’t have the real definition that they crave. This is why men without a lot of resources but with a lot of confidence can get very far. That longing to be named and defined by Adam is something that they cannot achieve on their own, no matter how hard they try.
If Fifty Shades of Grey isn't enough proof, look at the phenomenon of Twilight. People always bitch about Twilight online because Edward apparently stalked her in her sleep, he dictated what she should do, he was clearly better than her, he was much older, etc. Jacob was the nice guy who wanted to give Bella "freedom" and treated her like an equal or better. Who the phuck did she choose? Edward. Every time. She just "couldnt see Jacob as more than a close friend." This book sold millions and millions of copies to girls of all ages and they ATE IT UP. Men should have been buying it to use as a manual.
You ought to now be able to see why ugly, fat, feminists and plainjanes become enraged at all that is feminine and attack it, and do the same for all that is truly masculine. Ugly fat girls will never be the bathing beauty; they will never be the object of desire. They will never be longed for, so they have chosen to attack every single thing that makes a woman attractive to a man. And, have pledged to forever spew their femme-venom on all that is male, because they won’t be able to achieve their true desire from it.
Women, the arbiters of Herd Mentality, constantly measure their lives by other women; it’s never enough to be happy, they have to be happier than all the other girls. So if Fatty McButchHaircut isn’t happy no one else can be. Notice, if you will, that many of these feminists STILL have a man of their own, after all of their crying foul about patriarchy and the inherent evilness of the Male Imperative. Talk about Sleeping With the Enemy. Why in the world would they still want a man, I wonder? The answer being, because they still want his leadership, and they hate that they do. Most miserable are so many of these feminists, having to eventually acknowledge that they don’t feel complete without male attention, and never feel satisfied without male domination and definition. This is why women love weddings; it’s all of the things they crave together in one space at one time: attention, validation, desire, female jealousy, and being willingly owned by him in front of the whole world.
Can you now see why tingles are so important to a girl? Can you see why women can run through a man’s resources, especially beta orbiters, and then divorce them without even blinking? This is why men need to be taught to be men; not supplicaters. But conquerors. Leaders. This is the natural station of a man, but letting the feminists erode this, starting in our boyhood, just results in long term misery for everyone.
And the non-feminist womenz? They want you to just get all this without them having to tell you; if they have to tell you any of the above, you’re still doing what you’re told, which is a guaranteed tingle snuffer.
This is why women feel like they’re settling without an Alpha; and they treat the poor fools that kiss their asses like what they are, Plan Bs. No man need accept this position in life. It’s not about you impressing her; that is laughable. Why in the world should you even care about trying to impress someone whose every molecule longs to be conquered by you? It’s about stepping up, and taking your place in life. The women will always follow.
People don't change their personality overnight. You can't undo an entire adolescence of lies about the nature of women in one year. It's a process. And if you are such a vagina that you cannot persevere through hardship, well then that's natures way of telling you that you aren't worthy of passing your genes.
You know why women chit test men? Because its a test to see if a man is truly alpha at the core, or if hes just faking it. The fakers will fail the chit tests and won't be able to maintain a frame of confidence and dominance. Being dominant and confident is not something you just pick up by reading a self help book and go to the gym for a year. I was a beta bitch when I was 18, and 10 years later I am still working on it.
I know this got a little off topic, but the point is that self-improvement is a process. If you are going to be a whiny bitch who expects immediate results and gives up if there is no immediate gratification, then you don't deserve it. You think people who rose to the top in society did it effortlessly? If vagina was as easy as going to the gym for a year and reading some books, then you wouldn't have swarms of men complaining about women.
Think of it as the difference between having a boss who is a true leader - he tells you what to do and you do it out of respect for him in his leadership role. He is alpha. Then you have those bosses that you don't respect. They tell you to do stuff, and if you don't do it then you get threats. You do it out of fear of losing your job/other consequences.
True dominance commands obedience through respect. If you tell her girlfriend not to talk to other males, she senses the insecurity. She might refrain from doing it, but only because she knows how it makes you feel, not because she respects you. A woman who respects you won't talk to other men because 1) she knows you have enough self respect to not put up with her bullchit attention whoring antics and will leave if you find out and 2) if you're a man who makes her vagina tingle, she won't need to seek that validation from other men, because those other men will be seen as inferior, and validation from inferior men really isn't any validation at all.
Don't interpret this to mean I think that girlfriends shouldn't talk to other men. When I say talk I mean "talk" in the sense that she is attention whoring it up, gathering beta orbiters, leading on men who are actively trying to fuk her, etc. There is a difference between the two.
Young guys who are successful with women aren't successful because they really know what they are doing, it just comes to them naturally and they really don't know what makes women tick because they lack the experience. That's why you hear so many stories from young guys on this board who had women that were initially all over them, because they had that dominant frame - who then turned into vagina boys once they caught a glimpse of their girlfriend talking to other guys.
For the rest of you FAs here, you should know that it only gets better as you get older. Most men fail to figure out women. They get older, get married, get fat, get bald, turn into betas, let their wives walk all over them, and get divorced. It's the classic American story. I've spent some time working in family law and I see it all the time. If your a man who gains experience with women, learns about what they really want, understand how to maintain looks, become a source of stability and stoicism for women, work your way up the corporate ladder or whatever your passion is, you will be swimming in pussy in your 30s. Both from lonely desperate women in the 30s and 40s, but also from hot young women whose vaginas tingle for a man who knows wtf hes doing.
Women aren't going to feel like a man is strong if hes a twig or a whale no matter how you act. Does this mean you need to be 6'3 jacked at 8% bodyfat? No. In fact, getting to what the "misc ideal" can actually work against you. Women want a man who is physically dominant, but they want that man to be physically dominant naturally. They are actually turned off at the idea of a man who labors intensely in the gym to get the perfect body, because they associate that idea with vanity and insecurity - and women love to vocalize this because it underscores an air of superiority and smugness "we women are above selecting men for such shallow reasons!" The contradiction though is that they still fantasize about the guy with a hot body - but their fantasy is a guy whose hot body comes from some endeavor that isn't aimed specifically at getting that body. That's why women will he openly mock the gym rat stereotype. Because the stereotype destroys the fantasy that goes along with the hot body. Notwithstanding that, women will still drool when a jacked dude takes off his shirt, at least until logic comes in to interrupt their fantasy ("what a showoff;""he probably spends all day at the gym;""he must be compensating for something"). A jacked lumberjack or professional athlete makes a woman's vagina tingle more than any bodybuilder would. That is why getting too jacked works against you. So the trick is getting the alpha body, without destroying the woman's fantasy.
Don't misinterpret this to think that you need to be someone with male model aesthetics either. You will often hear women talk about men who are conventionally attractive but at the same time don't make their vagina's tingle. That is because an aesthetic face might draw her attention, but the reality is that sexual attraction for a woman is so much more than the face. Much more important is maintaining the alpha frame of dominance. This is why celebrities who are merely just good looking (as opposed to male model tier) are so much more desirable to women than male models. Men are lucky in this regard in that a large component of physical attractiveness can be achieved with effort. You can't really fix an ugly face, but most men are average looking, and the things that separate the above average from below average looks are things like grooming, fashion, and being in shape.
Analogize this to the way a lot of men view makeup on women. A lot of guys prefer women who are beautiful without makeup. I think most men would agree that a woman who wears makeup in a sensible manner is attractive. The common phrase is "the trick is to not look like you are wearing any." Men are visual, so anything that enhances the visual is going to be a good thing. But its also pretty common for men to be turned off by women who wear a ton of makeup, or ones that are butt ugly without their makeup on. Because when a man realizes that he is being fooled by smoke and mirrors, the fantasy of going balls deep in a perfect 10 heavenly blessed beauty is destroyed. She is really not that genetically blessed - she is just a fake, and the result is going to be more genetically inferior babies. A lot of men will look past it and still go after the caked on makeup whore at a club, because even though they might know it's all fake, because men are so visual, they can still accept the fantasy, at least for that night. And then men will say "well she was hot, and a good phuck, but not wife material" - because even though the smoke and mirrors still provide the instant gratification men crave, they know it's not real.
Also, there is no PUA in this thread. I know of PUA, but I've never read anything in depth about it. It's all based on observable human behavior. When you start viewing human behavior through this lens, women start making a lot of sense. I can't remember the last time when a woman's behavior ever confused me. I don't even know why people are throwing the PUA phrase around in here, nothing in here is about "picking up" women. If anything, this writing is only useful for maintaining relationships with women - not getting them. It's useful for men who are wondering why their girlfriends are behaving the way they are. It's not useful to figuring out why this HB 9 at the club laughed at his cold approach. I don't even approve of cold approaching, I think that is a waste of time because there are too many variables outside your control and cold approaching is going to be more about your looks and body language than anything. To me, it's like a last resort when your other sources of female interaction have dried up.
Nothing here is written is some sort of textbook guide to women. What janky said, women all have different personalities. You aren't going to make every woman's vagina tingle. No amount of being alpha is going to do it for her if her fantasy is a white guy with blonde hair and blue eyes and you are asian. But it would be foolish to think that there are no underlying mechanisms guiding human behavior. That is why what I wrote is not a textbook manual. It's doctrinal. If human behavior could not be explained with basic principles, then the entire field of human psychology would cease to exist. It would be impossible to explain every facet of the human condition, but it doesn't mean you can't cover a hell of a lot of ground with some basic but well developed ideas based on the observable world. If you doubt what I write, just start trying to view seemingly unexplained female behavior through this lens and you will see that things start making a lot of sense.
I get that it isn't easy, but validating someone's negative feelings does not do anything to help them get over them. Part of the problem of 21st century men is that we taught from childhood that it's now ok for a man to be a pussy, it's ok for him to be emotional, it's ok for him to be weak, it's ok for him to be immasculated. It is the feminist prerogative to immasculate men. And it's part of the reason we are known as the "entitlement" generation. People aren't taught that they are responsible for their own well-being.
So that said, it's pointless to attempt to try to use logical arguments with these guys. Trying to logically explain a new worldview to them is skipping an important step required in a person's transformation. Before they can even begin to accept new ideas, they have to first reject what they have learned their entire life. It's a tough pill to swallow.
Imagine the scene from the Matrix in which Neo is presented with the red pill/blue pill choice:
"You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes"
"I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it."
Something that might add a bit of support to my assertions about female behavior - I've spent a good deal of time working in family law. That is, dealing with divorces. You might be surprised how predictable every divorce story is, and some interesting statistics that go along with those stories. You could almost write a generic narrative, one to go along with the husband's side of the story and one to go with the wife's side, and it will generally resemble a large proportion of the stories these couples tell. One of the common themes is one that was written in the OP - about women marrying their plan Bs, and men who have been raised to be essentially men with vaginas. "he's good on paper but why aren't I haaappy?" You can attribute so many failed relationships where the root of the problem is simply that the man stopped making her vagina tingle.
As far as my experience through this lens - what I have learned has been a process. I didn't just wake up one morning and realize the truth. But when you look back at all of your relationships - so much of it starts to make sense. The older men on this forum who have had many experiences with relationships will read this stuff and nod their head because everything about their past starts to make sense. I've had plenty of experience with women - and as much as I know some women would love to explain me away saying "oh hes just bitter" - I have no reason to be bitter. You can't blame people for being human, you can only embrace and accept human nature and use that knowledge to better your own experiences. I've had plenty of LTRs (longest being 7 years), I've been a beta chump, I've been dumped, I've done the dumping, I've had FWBs, I've strung along girls who wanted relationships, I've been strung along in the friend zone, I've cheated on girlfriends, I've been cheated on, I've kept multiple girls on the hook, even when they all knew about each other, I've slept with men's wives - both when the husband didn't know and when the husband DID know (and even one couple whose husband liked to watch me plow his wife). I've banged strippers and I've taken catholic girls' virginities. The only thing I haven't done is get married. I've seen both sides of the fence, from being the most beta supplicating loser you can imagine (I was some girls "cuddle buddy" in high school who would cuddle with her until her "boyfriend" would come pick her up and plow her", and being the alpha of the party who can do no wrong with women. I'm barely above average looking, so I know what it's like to walk around day to day looking like ****, and also walking around day to day looking like a pimp. I was never naturally good with women, and women also don't flock to me on the regular now. But one thing I do know, is when I get a girl past the initial stages of attraction now, she never wants to let go.
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-She has one force that is her desire to be desired. This craving is insatiable, it’s like a tidal wave that rushes through her psyche and her body all the time. She longs to be looked at, to be noticed, to be wanted, to be so sexy that men can’t resist her, and other women can’t resist hating her. This is the main reason girls both love to get naked, and/or show off their bodies in as many ways as they can(always of course while protesting to the contrary). There’s no such thing as too much attention, as long as it’s not always coming from the same source.
-She has her ever present lust to obtain resources. This is rooted in her hypergamous need to seek out the strongest seed, and to trade up whenever possible to get the best deal. Provision, protection, status, she will take as much as she can get, by official or unofficial whoredom, with no apologies and no regrets. If you could literally give a woman the moon, she would soon ask you if you could relocate to a new Earth that had two moons, so she could have that second one too.
-It’s her third desirous force that seems to present the biggest head scratching conundrum for males, because it oft manifests itself in behavior that would seem to indicate the opposite. It’s rooted in the fact that Adam both named Eve and called her a woman. She longs to be dominated and conquered by a man stronger than she is; a man so powerful that he can plant his flag over her first two desires and bring her under control. She longs to be whatever you call her; she longs to be defined by the strength and the naming of her man. And, whatever you call her will imprint on her mind. If you think she’s attractive, and say so, she will think so; if you call her fat, she’ll see that when she looks in the mirror.
Now you can see why girls crave their father’s everything, and why women that are 10s are so shocked by men that ignore them. When a woman is a 10 she’s gotten used to men falling all over her with gifts and compliments, as men have been doing so since she was 13 years old. So a man that doesn't is a mystery and an anomaly to her mind. She must know why this man is seemingly immune to her charms, as all the other men seem not to be. It’s also the quiet but nagging insecurity trip of every pretty girl. Her mind is always saying, “Yah but…am I really pretty? And…for how long?”
By understanding these three internal forces, you ought to be able to see where much of human behavior comes from. Women that keep trying to prove that they are “strong” and “independent” are actively trying to reject their third desire, and acquire resources on their own. To literally not be defined by a man, as they’ve been told that that part of femininity is weak and needs to be categorically rejected. And when they do, they wake up in midlife in Spinsterville having never been married, childless, and often suicidally lonely.
And why? Because as much as they claim they don’t want to belong to a man, their deepest yearning is just the opposite. They want their life full of the smell of his strength and status(and last name), and they want their belly continually full of his babies. The more they can put an apron on you and tell you to get in the kitchen and fix them a sandwich, the more sexual attraction is running out of them like a car with a hole in the gas tank. And God help you if you are one of those men that has taken his wife’s last name. Ugh. She was cheating on you at the wedding. Go rewatch the footage.
Women that are constantly shrieking about how “they don’t need a man” are fighting themselves, consciously or not, and that’s the source of the outwardly manifested turmoil and turpitude. This is also why men that acquiesce, and give them whatever they want without conquering them or defining them produce that sense of “something’s missing.” Whenever a woman has to talk herself into gratitude, i.e., “I’ve got a man that’s good to me and loves me, why aren’t I haaaapy?” it’s because he hasn’t been strong enough to define her. Put her in her place. Conquer her. Name her. Make her his. TINGLES, motherfoogers. That’s what she yearns for more than anything.
The secret that women will never tell you is that these swirling forces inside of them tend to really overwhelm them. Sometimes they hate themselves for what they’ve done, and would do, just to achieve validation. Oh what a girl will do just to feel wanted, even if it’s only temporary. It’s why girls have a Walk of Shame, and guys really don’t (unless it’s seriously ugly chicks). It’s why girls love to do what Jamie Foxx said and blame it on the alcohol(which doesn’t turn you into someone you’re not, it just lowers your inhibitions). Because they don’t really want to admit the truth out loud, that they are constantly craving male attention, validation, definition, and domination, and they’ll sleep with many a guy just to try and drown out that unsilenceable siren blaring in their souls. Their hypergamy combined with their attention whoring is what has been unleashed without restraint through feminism, and now you should be able to see why feminists fight so hard against the third desire for domination. Why do you think women want to be spanked, tied up, pounded senseless sexually, and have rape fantasies? Let’s examine Amazon’s description of Fifty Shades of Grey, shall we?
"When literature student Anastasia Steele goes to interview young entrepreneur Christian Grey, she encounters a man who is beautiful, brilliant, and intimidating. The unworldly, innocent Ana is startled to realize she wants this man and, despite his enigmatic reserve, finds she is desperate to get close to him. Unable to resist Ana’s quiet beauty, wit, and independent spirit, Grey admits he wants her, too—but on his own terms. Shocked yet thrilled by Grey’s singular erotic tastes, Ana hesitates. For all the trappings of success—his multinational businesses, his vast wealth, his loving family—Grey is a man tormented by demons and consumed by the need to control. When the couple embarks on a daring, passionately physical affair, Ana discovers Christian Grey’s secrets and explores her own dark desires. Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever. This book is intended for mature audiences."
Didja catch all that? Why do you think women have responded to this work by the millions, just like Twilight before it? Because it speaks to everything that they want. A beautiful but intimidating man sets his own terms for having her because he can’t resist her, and she, caught in his wake, has the rationalization she needs to let her own inner skank loose. Because without being taken and owned by a man, women still feel out of control about the first two of their desires, and still don’t have the real definition that they crave. This is why men without a lot of resources but with a lot of confidence can get very far. That longing to be named and defined by Adam is something that they cannot achieve on their own, no matter how hard they try.
If Fifty Shades of Grey isn't enough proof, look at the phenomenon of Twilight. People always bitch about Twilight online because Edward apparently stalked her in her sleep, he dictated what she should do, he was clearly better than her, he was much older, etc. Jacob was the nice guy who wanted to give Bella "freedom" and treated her like an equal or better. Who the phuck did she choose? Edward. Every time. She just "couldnt see Jacob as more than a close friend." This book sold millions and millions of copies to girls of all ages and they ATE IT UP. Men should have been buying it to use as a manual.
You ought to now be able to see why ugly, fat, feminists and plainjanes become enraged at all that is feminine and attack it, and do the same for all that is truly masculine. Ugly fat girls will never be the bathing beauty; they will never be the object of desire. They will never be longed for, so they have chosen to attack every single thing that makes a woman attractive to a man. And, have pledged to forever spew their femme-venom on all that is male, because they won’t be able to achieve their true desire from it.
Women, the arbiters of Herd Mentality, constantly measure their lives by other women; it’s never enough to be happy, they have to be happier than all the other girls. So if Fatty McButchHaircut isn’t happy no one else can be. Notice, if you will, that many of these feminists STILL have a man of their own, after all of their crying foul about patriarchy and the inherent evilness of the Male Imperative. Talk about Sleeping With the Enemy. Why in the world would they still want a man, I wonder? The answer being, because they still want his leadership, and they hate that they do. Most miserable are so many of these feminists, having to eventually acknowledge that they don’t feel complete without male attention, and never feel satisfied without male domination and definition. This is why women love weddings; it’s all of the things they crave together in one space at one time: attention, validation, desire, female jealousy, and being willingly owned by him in front of the whole world.
Can you now see why tingles are so important to a girl? Can you see why women can run through a man’s resources, especially beta orbiters, and then divorce them without even blinking? This is why men need to be taught to be men; not supplicaters. But conquerors. Leaders. This is the natural station of a man, but letting the feminists erode this, starting in our boyhood, just results in long term misery for everyone.
And the non-feminist womenz? They want you to just get all this without them having to tell you; if they have to tell you any of the above, you’re still doing what you’re told, which is a guaranteed tingle snuffer.
This is why women feel like they’re settling without an Alpha; and they treat the poor fools that kiss their asses like what they are, Plan Bs. No man need accept this position in life. It’s not about you impressing her; that is laughable. Why in the world should you even care about trying to impress someone whose every molecule longs to be conquered by you? It’s about stepping up, and taking your place in life. The women will always follow.
People don't change their personality overnight. You can't undo an entire adolescence of lies about the nature of women in one year. It's a process. And if you are such a vagina that you cannot persevere through hardship, well then that's natures way of telling you that you aren't worthy of passing your genes.
You know why women chit test men? Because its a test to see if a man is truly alpha at the core, or if hes just faking it. The fakers will fail the chit tests and won't be able to maintain a frame of confidence and dominance. Being dominant and confident is not something you just pick up by reading a self help book and go to the gym for a year. I was a beta bitch when I was 18, and 10 years later I am still working on it.
I know this got a little off topic, but the point is that self-improvement is a process. If you are going to be a whiny bitch who expects immediate results and gives up if there is no immediate gratification, then you don't deserve it. You think people who rose to the top in society did it effortlessly? If vagina was as easy as going to the gym for a year and reading some books, then you wouldn't have swarms of men complaining about women.
Think of it as the difference between having a boss who is a true leader - he tells you what to do and you do it out of respect for him in his leadership role. He is alpha. Then you have those bosses that you don't respect. They tell you to do stuff, and if you don't do it then you get threats. You do it out of fear of losing your job/other consequences.
True dominance commands obedience through respect. If you tell her girlfriend not to talk to other males, she senses the insecurity. She might refrain from doing it, but only because she knows how it makes you feel, not because she respects you. A woman who respects you won't talk to other men because 1) she knows you have enough self respect to not put up with her bullchit attention whoring antics and will leave if you find out and 2) if you're a man who makes her vagina tingle, she won't need to seek that validation from other men, because those other men will be seen as inferior, and validation from inferior men really isn't any validation at all.
Don't interpret this to mean I think that girlfriends shouldn't talk to other men. When I say talk I mean "talk" in the sense that she is attention whoring it up, gathering beta orbiters, leading on men who are actively trying to fuk her, etc. There is a difference between the two.
Young guys who are successful with women aren't successful because they really know what they are doing, it just comes to them naturally and they really don't know what makes women tick because they lack the experience. That's why you hear so many stories from young guys on this board who had women that were initially all over them, because they had that dominant frame - who then turned into vagina boys once they caught a glimpse of their girlfriend talking to other guys.
For the rest of you FAs here, you should know that it only gets better as you get older. Most men fail to figure out women. They get older, get married, get fat, get bald, turn into betas, let their wives walk all over them, and get divorced. It's the classic American story. I've spent some time working in family law and I see it all the time. If your a man who gains experience with women, learns about what they really want, understand how to maintain looks, become a source of stability and stoicism for women, work your way up the corporate ladder or whatever your passion is, you will be swimming in pussy in your 30s. Both from lonely desperate women in the 30s and 40s, but also from hot young women whose vaginas tingle for a man who knows wtf hes doing.
Women aren't going to feel like a man is strong if hes a twig or a whale no matter how you act. Does this mean you need to be 6'3 jacked at 8% bodyfat? No. In fact, getting to what the "misc ideal" can actually work against you. Women want a man who is physically dominant, but they want that man to be physically dominant naturally. They are actually turned off at the idea of a man who labors intensely in the gym to get the perfect body, because they associate that idea with vanity and insecurity - and women love to vocalize this because it underscores an air of superiority and smugness "we women are above selecting men for such shallow reasons!" The contradiction though is that they still fantasize about the guy with a hot body - but their fantasy is a guy whose hot body comes from some endeavor that isn't aimed specifically at getting that body. That's why women will he openly mock the gym rat stereotype. Because the stereotype destroys the fantasy that goes along with the hot body. Notwithstanding that, women will still drool when a jacked dude takes off his shirt, at least until logic comes in to interrupt their fantasy ("what a showoff;""he probably spends all day at the gym;""he must be compensating for something"). A jacked lumberjack or professional athlete makes a woman's vagina tingle more than any bodybuilder would. That is why getting too jacked works against you. So the trick is getting the alpha body, without destroying the woman's fantasy.
Don't misinterpret this to think that you need to be someone with male model aesthetics either. You will often hear women talk about men who are conventionally attractive but at the same time don't make their vagina's tingle. That is because an aesthetic face might draw her attention, but the reality is that sexual attraction for a woman is so much more than the face. Much more important is maintaining the alpha frame of dominance. This is why celebrities who are merely just good looking (as opposed to male model tier) are so much more desirable to women than male models. Men are lucky in this regard in that a large component of physical attractiveness can be achieved with effort. You can't really fix an ugly face, but most men are average looking, and the things that separate the above average from below average looks are things like grooming, fashion, and being in shape.
Analogize this to the way a lot of men view makeup on women. A lot of guys prefer women who are beautiful without makeup. I think most men would agree that a woman who wears makeup in a sensible manner is attractive. The common phrase is "the trick is to not look like you are wearing any." Men are visual, so anything that enhances the visual is going to be a good thing. But its also pretty common for men to be turned off by women who wear a ton of makeup, or ones that are butt ugly without their makeup on. Because when a man realizes that he is being fooled by smoke and mirrors, the fantasy of going balls deep in a perfect 10 heavenly blessed beauty is destroyed. She is really not that genetically blessed - she is just a fake, and the result is going to be more genetically inferior babies. A lot of men will look past it and still go after the caked on makeup whore at a club, because even though they might know it's all fake, because men are so visual, they can still accept the fantasy, at least for that night. And then men will say "well she was hot, and a good phuck, but not wife material" - because even though the smoke and mirrors still provide the instant gratification men crave, they know it's not real.
Also, there is no PUA in this thread. I know of PUA, but I've never read anything in depth about it. It's all based on observable human behavior. When you start viewing human behavior through this lens, women start making a lot of sense. I can't remember the last time when a woman's behavior ever confused me. I don't even know why people are throwing the PUA phrase around in here, nothing in here is about "picking up" women. If anything, this writing is only useful for maintaining relationships with women - not getting them. It's useful for men who are wondering why their girlfriends are behaving the way they are. It's not useful to figuring out why this HB 9 at the club laughed at his cold approach. I don't even approve of cold approaching, I think that is a waste of time because there are too many variables outside your control and cold approaching is going to be more about your looks and body language than anything. To me, it's like a last resort when your other sources of female interaction have dried up.
Nothing here is written is some sort of textbook guide to women. What janky said, women all have different personalities. You aren't going to make every woman's vagina tingle. No amount of being alpha is going to do it for her if her fantasy is a white guy with blonde hair and blue eyes and you are asian. But it would be foolish to think that there are no underlying mechanisms guiding human behavior. That is why what I wrote is not a textbook manual. It's doctrinal. If human behavior could not be explained with basic principles, then the entire field of human psychology would cease to exist. It would be impossible to explain every facet of the human condition, but it doesn't mean you can't cover a hell of a lot of ground with some basic but well developed ideas based on the observable world. If you doubt what I write, just start trying to view seemingly unexplained female behavior through this lens and you will see that things start making a lot of sense.
I get that it isn't easy, but validating someone's negative feelings does not do anything to help them get over them. Part of the problem of 21st century men is that we taught from childhood that it's now ok for a man to be a pussy, it's ok for him to be emotional, it's ok for him to be weak, it's ok for him to be immasculated. It is the feminist prerogative to immasculate men. And it's part of the reason we are known as the "entitlement" generation. People aren't taught that they are responsible for their own well-being.
So that said, it's pointless to attempt to try to use logical arguments with these guys. Trying to logically explain a new worldview to them is skipping an important step required in a person's transformation. Before they can even begin to accept new ideas, they have to first reject what they have learned their entire life. It's a tough pill to swallow.
Imagine the scene from the Matrix in which Neo is presented with the red pill/blue pill choice:
"You take the blue pill, the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes"
"I'm trying to free your mind, Neo. But I can only show you the door. You're the one that has to walk through it."
Something that might add a bit of support to my assertions about female behavior - I've spent a good deal of time working in family law. That is, dealing with divorces. You might be surprised how predictable every divorce story is, and some interesting statistics that go along with those stories. You could almost write a generic narrative, one to go along with the husband's side of the story and one to go with the wife's side, and it will generally resemble a large proportion of the stories these couples tell. One of the common themes is one that was written in the OP - about women marrying their plan Bs, and men who have been raised to be essentially men with vaginas. "he's good on paper but why aren't I haaappy?" You can attribute so many failed relationships where the root of the problem is simply that the man stopped making her vagina tingle.
As far as my experience through this lens - what I have learned has been a process. I didn't just wake up one morning and realize the truth. But when you look back at all of your relationships - so much of it starts to make sense. The older men on this forum who have had many experiences with relationships will read this stuff and nod their head because everything about their past starts to make sense. I've had plenty of experience with women - and as much as I know some women would love to explain me away saying "oh hes just bitter" - I have no reason to be bitter. You can't blame people for being human, you can only embrace and accept human nature and use that knowledge to better your own experiences. I've had plenty of LTRs (longest being 7 years), I've been a beta chump, I've been dumped, I've done the dumping, I've had FWBs, I've strung along girls who wanted relationships, I've been strung along in the friend zone, I've cheated on girlfriends, I've been cheated on, I've kept multiple girls on the hook, even when they all knew about each other, I've slept with men's wives - both when the husband didn't know and when the husband DID know (and even one couple whose husband liked to watch me plow his wife). I've banged strippers and I've taken catholic girls' virginities. The only thing I haven't done is get married. I've seen both sides of the fence, from being the most beta supplicating loser you can imagine (I was some girls "cuddle buddy" in high school who would cuddle with her until her "boyfriend" would come pick her up and plow her", and being the alpha of the party who can do no wrong with women. I'm barely above average looking, so I know what it's like to walk around day to day looking like ****, and also walking around day to day looking like a pimp. I was never naturally good with women, and women also don't flock to me on the regular now. But one thing I do know, is when I get a girl past the initial stages of attraction now, she never wants to let go.
